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My ex is acting different/weird

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Leanne1191 · 16/03/2021 08:45

Hi everyone,

Just need some advice, so a lot of you know my story from last year, my ex cheating on me 6 months after our marriage and then being with her and him being a typical liar and a narcissist.

Well lately he's been acting different, 6 weeks ago I did the no contact rule, I changed my number, and I asked him not to come to my house and have also got my mum as the middle person for the kids, so he drops them and picks them up from my mums so I have no contact with him and so he doesn't need to speak to me or see me it's just better for me at the moment and it's helping with me moving forward and getting on with my life.

However he don't like this, he has been acting weird......

6 weeks ago was the last time I saw and spoke to him, I made sure I was dressed up and looked nice because i thought you ain’t seeing me looking like shit anymore. The Friday he took them he made some excuses to message me and asked for my email address, I ignored him, I was then advised to change my number, tell him not to come to the house anymore and too use someone as a third party with regards to the children so that’s what I did after telling him to go through my mum and he’s not to come to the house anymore and is to pick them up and drop them off to my mums, two weeks ago he kicked off as it was our first child’s birthday and he moaned about seeing him and blah blah blah so I said don’t worry I’ll do his birthday the Monday instead, he asked my mum twice to get me to ring him but she said no Alex that’s why I’m here she won’t be ringing you, he then decides to drop them home 2 hours early too the Sunday and our child said to me that he had gone to my house and went looking for my car and he said he had said to his dad mums in Southend this weekend and his dad apparently said to him no she’s not she’s either at home or at her friends do you know where her friend lives luckily for me he didn’t know the directions, he then dropped them round to my mum and come back to my house the second time posted a note and money through the door as he hadn’t fed them, then during the week he tried to get me to ring him again but my mum just ignored him this time, now this weekend gone he’s done it again he’s come to my house again when he knows not to and has looked for my car and has also brought the kids a phone so he can call them every Wednesday (he hasn’t bothered since we split) his behaviour is odd he told me months ago to just leave him alone and threatened harassment on me so I’ve backed off and he’s now acting like this, my friend thinks maybe he’s realised the grass isn’t greener and has realised what his lost... what do you think? I’ve got court in June too which he has summoned me too so I don’t get why he needs to speak to me and see me because that’s clearly getting to him now.

I just want him to leave me alone, he's meant to be happy with the woman he cheated on me with and shouldn't care about what I'm doing or where I am.

What should I do????

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Leanne1191 · 24/03/2021 08:17

@notacooldad

That's what I've been doing Excellent! I have given this advice to some of the young women I work with in abusive relationships. ( in a completely different context to yours and for different reasons. Some have. When they have listened to his smooth talk and thought their boyfriend 'wasn't that bad ' have been horrified at their thoughts and feelings and being reminded of the shiity things the ex has done. Those that haven't made a journal seem to have memory fade and have gone back more than once! 😥

I hope you are OK and stay strong.

So I rang the police got them to come out and he has been warned, they spoke to him Monday, now he's hacking my Instagram account and I know it's him as he knows my emails address plus the phone he has given them which was meant to be a Wednesday thing he called last night..... 🙄 I think he's getting desperate with this not having control thing again.
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