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Cheating

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OliviaBensonsEyebrow · 16/03/2021 08:09

My partner of 3 years suddenly split up with me about 5 years ago. He'd recently joined a new club related to a hobby we shared but didn't want me to attend any events with him. He said he needed time to himself each week.

We lived together and because it was so sudden, it took me about 3 weeks to move out. I was convinced he'd met someone else and had cheated. He denied this.

Anyway, I joined a group last night (related to this shared hobby) and the organiser added me on to their Facebook page. I was having a scroll through their photos and noticed him, it also became apparent from the photos and comments that he's been in a relationship with another woman from about 2 months before we split. I was looking for photos of a specific event from a few years ago that the organiser had mentioned. I had no idea he was in this group until I saw these photos and had pretty much forgotten about him.

I'm happily in another relationship now (with a DD) but this knowledge hit me hard when I found out last night. Or, when I found proof. I think it's more because he lied and denied he'd met someone else, when my gut feeling was telling me he had.

Anyway, I'm ok but just feeling a bit let down. Not that I see him now. He removed me from his Facebook etc when we split (despite saying that we would stay friends) and now I know why!

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pog100 · 16/03/2021 08:23

So just an everyday lying, cowardly cheat then. I know you already have but it just makes it easier to move on with regrets and realise you aren't missing anything there.

OliviaBensonsEyebrow · 16/03/2021 08:33

@pog100

So just an everyday lying, cowardly cheat then. I know you already have but it just makes it easier to move on with regrets and realise you aren't missing anything there.
That's how I'm starting to feel this morning. Like I have closure and I'm better off well rid.

I think I always had a bit of a niggle because my gut was telling me he had cheated but he denied it and I never had any proof.

Apart from the niggle (if anything came up that reminded me of him), I'd moved on.

She's welcome to him!

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