Why is it when they get a new lady they can’t help but be nasty. Inventing a new narrative he did this five years agora well it almost tipped me over the edge. Last year I really thought he had changed he started paying maintenance!!!!! Had a good job a flat, i felt he had turned a corner we were getting on amazing. I even agreed to kids sleepovers at his place (cao in place no overnight, but I can agree to this if I want to)
Then it happened he moved everything went tits up lost his job ended up sofa surfing in an area the CAO states children not go to (due to concerns about friends , drug taking etc) yes he was back to that. I always like to think there must be good in there somewhere I must have seen it to marry him perhaps he was just a good actor Oscar worthy. Well we didn’t see him for a few months til after this Christmas he didn’t even send them a card. He gave me a rather convincing tell of woe homeless, sofa surfing having to rely on benefits and food banks. Said he had no money for food so lent him approx £20. Later in the week urgent calls from him when I didn’t reply to texts quickly like within 10 mins . Being a compassionate person lent him more these amount adds up to £75 plus it was probably used for booze and drugs. Don’t I wish I had hindsight but I truly believed he was struggling financially.
I’m so gullible it was all an act obviously soon as I supplied his needs emotionally and financially I was quickly discarded as were his children. Yes dear reader there was a new supply I got strange messages blaming me for him not being able to see children (he expected me to drive an hour to pick him up go get his other child and then drive a further hour to the final destination) I kid you not I get the blame! Oh and said he doesn’t really want to see them here as I make him nervous 😟 yet he finds it ok to be in close proximity in car for hours go figure. Anyway few weeks ago after I said no more drop off pick up I blocked him he could only contact email but blocked his flying monkeys. Yes they tried other ways.
This week I thought I need to clear the air get things off my chest regarding children couldn’t he just be a dad turn up etc I was in no way going to prevent contact although eldest has decided against. Youngest not that bothered with father but likes to see other sibling. He replied to my messages today he hadn’t bothered to read them as they were rubbish just deleted them I’m a waste of time. Doesn’t know why I contact him. Well now I don’t have to , Child arrangements order will have to be followed, which you don’t want to follow as you are above such orders.
Well good luck with the new supply try explaining why you don’t see them oh yeah I know it’s all my fault as I’m the crazy ex. Not that you think it’s beneath your diginity to follow such court orders.
Thank you for making me feel so worthless today but prior to your email I had contacted dr as your behaviour and your flying monkeys had started to push me down again. I have made plans to lift my mood with decorating a bedroom and ordered new shower so that the bathroom can be transformed! And I can do it on my own.