Started speaking in November, formed a bubble in January. Met pretty much weekly since then, he’s been to mine, I’ve been to his. Have a great time with him but between dates barely hear from him! This has gone on for some time now and I mentioned it in passing once and he just said he wasn’t a texter. All fine, accepted that and I’m busy in the week too. When we arrange to meet, he’s proactive at the last minute (ie might suggest a walk or film the day before) but otherwise if I want to organise my time I have to contact him and get clarity on what we are doing/which day, otherwise it is a last minute message from him. I know these aren’t big issues but it just doesn’t feel like he’s that bothered or excited to see me?! Is that an immature thing to say?!
We’ve stayed over but a lot of the time he will say he’d prefer to meet in the day..I also find this odd as 4 months in in past relationships have been very much staying over and planning things together.
He’s taking a week off soon and will be going to stay in family holiday home for a few days and will call in to see family outside for a day during the trip. He’s not asked if I want to join him but knows I could take time off easily.
I don’t know if I’m being unfair on him here, he’s quite shy and reserved (we’ve not dtd yet because i want to wait and he’s never been pushy like so many men I’ve been with). Maybe it’s that? Or is this going nowhere?
I’m feeling sick of the sense that I’m driving things forward all the time. BUT I really do think he’s wonderful and so it’s hard to just call time on it. Don’t know what to do.