Newly pregnant and picking holes in my relationship

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Any one else find themselves picking their partner to pieces in early pregnancy?

He's honestly wonderful and I have got zero to complain about.

But can't help myself picking him apart, everything he does or says is driving me mad and I've honestly considered if I would be happier separate from him.

I'm not being nice to him and honestly I don't know why he is putting up with the mean and impossible to please GF he currently has to deal with. I don't like me at all right now! It's not who I am.

Please tell me this is crazy hormones and I will like him again soon?

Otherwise I'm pregnant with a man I've fallen out of love with!

It's not normal to feel like this, are you happy about the pregnancy? If you finding fault with him then you're not happy with him, keep it up and you will be single.
Contact your midwife or gp see if you can talk to them about receiving therapy.

This is completely normal. If you've always got on and he's wonderful and it's started since pregnancy, it's definitely hormones. I felt absolutely terrible in early pregnancy, hated everything and everything that he said!

Just try and talk to him, tell him that you've feeling absolutely rotten and really bad tempered. It will pass....

It does happen that suddenly everything about a partner INFURIATES you in early pregnancy, from their smell to the way they breathe.

If he definitely hasnt done anything and your relationship was previously sound, it's almost certainly hormonal. Explain to him and ask for his patience. But if you do have any buried resentment and/or he has form for being lazy, disrespectful, etc, now is a much better time to sort it than when you have a baby.

I was very irritable during early pregnancy OP. Poor DH put up with it FOUR TIMES!
He's lovely, it was definitely me, and it passed at about the same time as the sickness at 12/14 weeks.

Don't worry after the birth you'll really hate him! 🤣

@ivfbeenbusy

Don't worry after the birth you'll really hate him! 🤣

Ain't that the truth I remember telling my DSis that it's normal to hate your DH when you've just had a baby, and to try not to divorce him in the first year.

@ScarfaceCwaw

I've got newborn twins and honestly have never hated DH more 🤣

Thank you so much ladies, feel a lot better about this now.
Yes, the relationship was sound before the pregnancy, it was planned and very much wanted.
I think maybe I'm putting too much pressure on my expectations of how perfect everything including him needs to be before baby arrival.

I certainly don't think I need therapy.

Bloody hormones!
Will keep breathing and hope things level out by end of first trimester.

Yep normal. I broke down got irritated at partner because he was trying to encourage me to eat. He did this by telling me he would cook anything in the house or go to the shop or take away and get me what I wanted. I couldn't stop crying but got very annoyed that he wasnt fixing the problem. I swear I used to be a rational human being. I also contemplated leaving him as he dared cook bacon in the kitchen and the smell made me feel sick. I only realised thos after he cooked it.
Hormones and exhaustion of early pregnancy sucks

I think maybe I'm putting too much pressure on my expectations of how perfect everything including him needs to be before baby arrival.

Honestly for most men you need to massively lower your expectations otherwise you'll spend the pregnancy and certainly the newborn months really disappointed and it will put an even greater strain on your relationship

That's not to say you should let him off the hook/let him get away with not supporting you but just be prepared that his idea of "support" is likely vastly different to what you want/need/expected

Yeah I can see that now @ivfbeenbusy
Will have a word with myself!

It's really not the things I expected to be hard making pregnancy so difficult to navigate!

Absolutely everything my partner does winds me up to no end. I’m 26 weeks now so can’t promise it definitely gets better 😂

I have this expectation of the house being immaculate and everything being ready for the baby coming and even though we still have 3 months I get annoyed if he doesn’t clean his dishes after cooking! I can’t help it and he understands it’s hormones but it makes me feel like an absolute bell end! I’ve warned him it’ll probably only get worse as we get into the third trimester...

Good luck!!

This is completely normal in early pregnancy, don't worry!