Why does this annoy me SO much?

[Ihatesandwiches]

Every year on Mother's Day and DC's birthday, exP sends me a text thanking me for being an amazing mum and saying how DC is developing into a fabulous person as a result of having me as a mum. It pisses me off! And I have no idea how to respond. Any ideas - either to why it annoys me or how to respond!?! For what it's worth, we don't get on well normally.

Because it's patronising and you don't need validation from him. How often does he normally text you?

Oh god all I’ve reaD all day is posts from people complaining their ex doesn’t acknowledge them on Mother’s Day and now here we have someone complaining that their ex DOES. Seems some people can’t win!

That sounds nice of him to say? Is he normally a twat and that's why it annoys you?

I think you are overthinking. He’s an ex you don’t get on with, so you probably don’t want the messages. Just delete them - they don’t need an acknowledgment.

@Givemeabreak88

Oh god all I’ve reaD all day is posts from people complaining their ex doesn’t acknowledge them on Mother’s Day and now here we have someone complaining that their ex DOES. Seems some people can’t win!

Oh whatever! Have you no imagination? OP doesn't like the man....doesn't need his sickly messages. We don't know what sort of man he is....he might be an abusive twat! She obviously doesn't need his validation - do women have to be grateful for every shite message now? It's just words....no effort on his part really.

I can't delete him. If there is a problem we need to communicate. We don't get on. He does his best to get out of EOW every time and his partner sends me nasty messages (now blocked).

@FortunesFave I agree with you. It is patronising. It's as though they don't support the parenting role, unless it suits and is comfortable, but by sending a slimy text, they feel they are supporting.
My ex has started forwarding me school email ref school lunches (very bizarre) The kids live with me, and I've been ordering their school lunches for 2 years. Of course the school have my contact details and send me everything. He sends the kids nothing for christmas, birthdays etc.

I just wouldn't respond.

Or "even a stopped clock is right twice a day".

But probably just stick to silence .

Thanks all. We do message throughout the year but he makes a big point of sending me a thank you a comment