i know. another thread about what a shit my dh is

[starshaker]

well its my bday today an dh has announced rangers are playing so he is going to his sisters to watch it. happy fuckin birthday

sorry , but i agree with lulumama. do not ttc while your relationship is this bad. it will get worse if you let it carry on, and even worse with a new baby.

ahh what a bummer!... Well happy birthday to you and this sounds annoying - "just got a text. pick up something fo my dinner i dont want crap again"...i would seriously make your own dinner for a while and dont bother with his - seriously and he got to learn to appreciate you and not taking you for granted.....Dp said to me once "All you do is sit in and look after the baby..ive got to go out to work!"...(i look after DD, get shopping in, tidy and do the washing etc) as soon he said that i stopped ironing his clothes on the Thursdays as he go and play pool (hes in a team) so i didnt iron his clothes for months after that. He shut his mouth since!!.

Yes seriously have a rethink about ttc too.

I was at Arsenal v ManU at the weekend and thre was a charming banner at the ManU end, it said

United, Kids, Wife

In that order

I thought god your lucky wives (not)
Such a pathetic sentiment

Am for you

Did he mean 'crap like you prepared last night' or 'fast food type crap'? either way it's a shitty text to send and also shitty that he's going out on your birthday!
Tell he's in charge of preparing his own meals from now on.

Get a bus and take your DD out for a nice meal somewhere.

And ignore his text.

He sounds unkind and manipulative.

Try not to give him more power by letting him ruin your birthday.

he knows i hate my birthday cos its never been important to any1. cant remember having a good birtday since i was 8. wish i could just forget it and act like it doesnt matter

sorry but if he can send you a text like that, whatever day it is, I have no idea what you are doing with him. nor what he is doing to yuor self estemm./

Thats truly awful, and thats from just thispost.

my god woman what are you diong. You don't 'need' this person. Not really.

Don't suppose he planned a suprise treat? Can you order a take away? Def don't cook on your birthday anyway, its the rules no cooking, cleaning or working on my birthday!

Starshaker

Happy Birthday. Your birthday will mean alot to your child in time.

Enjoy your child - ignore him. Lulumama ALWAYS talk sense - don't plan TTC until you are treated better and so feel better. In fact - sex ban until you are treated like a lady.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Treat yourself to something expensive tomorrow and charge it to his card. If you treat yourself well and respectfully, you'll notice sooner or later that others start to as well. And if this bloke doesn't start shaping up soon, then make enquiries as to what alternative lifestyles there are available to you. You're too good for this lack of respect.

Am astonished you agree to have sex with this creep at all, let alone ttc with him. You deserve better.

Happy Birthday Starshaker!

For your birthday I hope you accept the present of realising that YOU DESERVE BETTER than the way this idiot is treating you.

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My DH went to watch Liverpool play in the Champions League in Barcelona on my b day last year. Me and DC all had flu as well. Is this just what men do? He knew it would be my B day when he booked it well in advance.

I overheard my dh finalising arrangements on the phone for going to the pub to watch the rugby on a Saturday night. It was the 1st I'd heard of the plan. I blew a fuse that he was deserting the family (or rather me)on a Saturday night, nowhere near as big a deal as a birthday. The main reason I objected (apart from the fact he didn't even consult me but just said I must surely have guessed he would be wanting to go!!!) was that he is the main one who has always revered Saturdays as special evenings either to socialise with friends or have family games nights with the kids. He kicked up a huge fuss once when I had to work with colleagues at school due to an impending Osted inspection on the Monday (in other words, a GOOD reason!). Anyway, this time he chuntered and moaned.....but he didn't go to the pub! Mind you, it was a pretty hollow victory coz he grumped and huffed and puffed about all evening until we all wished he had gone in the 1st place.