Separation confusion

[Strawb1980]

Can someone give me some advice please. Separated nearly 9 months no communication for the first 3. I want him back and he knows this. Not sure what will happen tbh. Just recently he's been staying overnight once a week. Not with me but downstairs with ds playing xbox etc. I think this is messing with my mind quite a bit like mixed signals really. Also been doing odd jobs around my house. I'm so confused I don't know what to think. Appreciate any advice

Tell him to leave 🌺

Break ups are really hard. Especially when it's being nine months and the reality of been single kicks in. (Ie paying bills on own, making every cup of tea yourself, less cuddles etc*).

But if you do want him back, just be careful you do for the right reasons; you miss his conversation, he makes you laugh/think/happy etc. If you end up returning to a relationship for the wrong reasons you're going to end up taking longer to get to the person you should be with.

Break ups are line going on a diet, there are days you just want to pack it all in and have the McDonalds. But there's a reason for the diet and you have to hold on to the bigger picture. It's not easy. But you'll get there.

*there are pros to the single life of course, but that's for a different thread 😊

There was months when he didn't come to the house only waiting in car when picking dc up. Now he's popping in every day. I don't mind... I'd really love him to come back. We talked in October he said he wasn't ready. I suppose I'm just hoping that this is the start of spending a bit of time all together as a family and it leads to us being together again. He also pays my rent every month for me and told dc he's buying us a house... for all of us. Whats he doing here honestly?

Also forgot to mention he lost his dad last year and I started to notice a change in him. I don't think he has grieved for his dad

Have you spoken to him about how you're feeling and how his actions are coming across? The only person who can say what is going to happen is him.

He knows how I feel ive told him many times. Just don't wanna pressure him