Another dating site one..

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My husband has signed up to dating sites. I know this because I snooped in his emails after seeing him close them really quickly when I approached.

Question is.. what do I do about it? How do I get evidence to call him out on it without revealing I logged in to his email?

Call him out on it, but it’s possible he was just fed up or being nosey without any real intention of actually contacting anyone.

Does he have a photo on there? Tell him a friend saw him.

Why do you need to call him out on it? Just tell him to pack his bags and bugger off. You know he has been cheating, you don't need to explain how you know, just tell him you do and it's over.

If he has a photo or has made an effort at writing a profile, he’s not just being nosy. The reverse is sadly not always true, that’s why upgrading on POF allows you to decline contact from no-photos.

Can you log into his account to see if he's been sending messages?

I would be honest and tell him what you know and the reason you looked is because you were suspicious about his behaviour. The conversation has to come out anyway and you've caught him red handed.

I confronted him.

My head is a mess. He says he's lonely.

Can I say to the lady above who says he might be nosey or bored- that’s a very low bar —I get bored and nosey - I most certainly don’t go on dating sites and I think it’s a 100% fuck off offence

Op- may I suggest he soon is even more lonely !!

I was on Bumble and, to my horror, saw my married friend on there. He was visiting my city for a work meeting. I messaged him and asked WTF? I know his marriage is very difficult, sleeps in separate beds etc. He said he was just looking and had no intention of meeting anyone, was lonely, and just wanted to imagine different women. The fucker went to the effort of lying about his age and wrote a bio. His poor wife. You absolutely did the right thing to confront him.

My friend caught his wife out when he saw a bank statement with a debit to an unknown recipient. He contacted the bank they confirmed it was a dating site. Still not really believing it he created a temporary account logged in and searched for people in our area. He then recognised pictures of his wifes private parts and breasts due to a small birthmark. Poor guys lost everything through this. Just so sad how people can be so selfish.

He's not added any information or pictures and used a fake name. That was his mitigating factor, "I didn't use my real name". Bloody arsehole.

There is a huge backstory to this. We've been having issues, I've been really patient and gone against everyone's advice of telling me I should leave and now this feels like a kick to the stomach.

He 100% has issues that need to be dealt with. Not for my sake, I think I'm done, but for the next poor woman who has to deal with him.