Please tell me should I leave or keep trying,?

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I'm going to write this now & then go to bed. In the morning I'll look back & make a decision. I don't know how long to keep trying with my husband. He's had a drink problem since I met him. It was linked to mental health problems. He's had every form of support going. Private & NHS. He's been sectioned before. He's blamed ex partners, his family & work for his issues. I've supported him through it all.
I honestly think I might have my own drink problem now just because of how life is with him & how much he needs wine.
Yet again today I've struggled through a day at work (working from home) watching him seemingly getting drunker as the day went on (thinking he spent some of the petrol money he asked for on booze). He won't work claiming he's too mentally ill.
He wants half of everything I own (got before I met him) to leave.
I still think I can make him love me enough. I'm stupid aren't I? I need to call it a day don't I? Money isn't everything. Why do I keep putting myself through this?
Please tell me, should I give up & call it a day?

Yes you should. He should enhance your life not drain it.

Definitely leave this won't get better.

I stopped reading as soon as you said he's an alcoholic. Run for your life.

His mental health can't improve while he drinks, his drinking won't improve while you are there to cushion his fall.

Just go before he wrecks your life even more.

I think you need to prioritise yourself and leave him

You can't fix him

Please please leave.

Thank you all. I know this really. I think I only asked because I was scared to admit it to myself. I don't know how I will do it, but thanks for confirming i should!

Having mh problems isn't the green light to abuse someone...
Enlist some friends or family to assist him out of the door.
I can lend you a 6'4dh and 3 gym going ds's...

This is no life, let alone a marriage.

You cannot fix him, leave and live your life.

This is a good one

I think you deserve better, OP.

Leave . Well he should leave really. My alcoholic dh is moving out in a few weeks

Get rid of him. He won’t necessarily get half anyway.

Have you had any legal advice about what he would get OP? Him 'wanting' half of everything to leave doesn't mean he gets it!

What Weirdfan wrote. You need proper legal advice re divorce.

The 3cs re alcoholism are you did not cause it, you cannot control it and you cannot cure it. You also could do with contacting Al-anon as they are very helpful to dealing with those affected by another person's drinking. You are currently as caught up in his alcoholism almost as much as he is. You're floundering and your life with him consists of lurching from one crisis to another.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?. Did you see a heavy drinking parent within your childhood home?.

The only person who can help your H is his own self and he does not want it from anyone. He may never want help either. He has been seen by far more qualified people than your good self and it has not worked because he does not want their help or support.

You are perhaps confusing love here with codependency; his actions towards you are not loving ones. Being codependent is also perhaps why you keep putting yourself through this. You indeed need a partner, not a project and you need to get off the merry go around now.