Has anyone come out as lesbian/bisexual in their 30's and older

[hippychick11]

I'm 39 and came out only in the last year I think those close to me knew anyway but in many ways it has been very liberating. I knew since I was a teenager that I preferred women and all of my crushes have been on women. However I had chronically low self esteem growing up and always felt like I had to do what everyone else was doing-silly I know because it just caused a lot of depression and anxiety and I realised that I was lying to myself for a really long time.

A small part of me feels I've left things too late to meet someone even though I know I can meet an amazing woman at any age. I could never have children due to polycystic ovaries so there isn't the same pressure to meet someone in that way.

Has anyone else come out in your 30's;40's, 50's etc and what was that like? Are you in a relationship now?

I met someone same sex at 46. Yes I'm still in the relationship. It wasn't difficult with my family because they always suspected anyway.

@Kelly345 that's wonderful and it makes all the difference to have family support aswell

Trust me it's never too late to meet someone. Sign up on some gay dating sites and start letting the world know you're available x

I was married to a man for 32 years but always suspected I preferred women. I met a wonderful woman 2 years ago, I split with my husband 6 months later (it was going to happen anyway) and now living very happily with her. I'm 51, don't ever give up!! Life is better than ever

In a way. I was always out as bisexual and have had romantic partners of both sexes. But I never thought to tell my children. It just never crossed my mind to openly flaunt the fact that before I married a man, I was sleeping with men and women.

So when two of my DCs came out to me in their teens, I was like shrug no worries you do know I’m bi? And they were surprised but also comforted in a way? So that was a second coming out in a way.

My cousin came out in her 30s (she had been married to a man for a few years). She's had a few longer term female relationships since then, but not married. Overall, I'd say she is very happy.

Interestingly she had stayed in a very close relationship with ex-DH, and they've gone on holidays together, always share a room, often go to social events togethers, etc. They have no kids, but have maintained a really close bond and are best friends (for many years I assumed they were still having sex, but I don't know)

Think I might be bi - I’ve kissed a few girls at uni. But met DH young. I find myself really kind of flushed around gay women and then always end up flirting and getting totally turned on by it!