My partner has controlled many aspects of me over the 12 years we've been together, I've dealt with so much. But I think this is the final straw because I now see the affect its going to have on our children.
Both my kids are under 3 so quite young but my youngest is showing signs of autism. Ive known it for a long time and just dont the wait and see approach but some of the things with her is impossible to ignore now that I took the extra step of speaking to my health visitor or refered me to a paediatrician who also agrees dd shows autism traits and is now waiting to be assessed but I already know the outcome, she will be on the spectrum its just where!
Partner refuses to accept it. Says Dr is an asshole etc. Which is ok as I understand this happens when one parent cant accept it. BUT its the stuff he said to me and my sons reaction that has given me a wake up call.
Got home from the appointment. Dh sees im visibly upset after the appointment and instead of a hug or are you ok I just got the response "well?" in a very harsh tone. I told him what the specialist thought and he just wasn't happy, at all.
Then proceeded to tell me im crazy, all these things im saying shes doing/not doing is in my head. That I want something to be wrong with her. That I need something to blame in order to cope with why I cant cope with her behaviour at times. Just totally destroyed me. I admit I let a tear or two roll down my face in the moment and our son was in the room. Immediately my son began to give off to his father "dad stop it you're making mammy cry" i immediately dried my face and said no son mammy is ok and put a smile on my face abd he hugged me.
This infuriated my dh who then accused me of turning his son against him with my fake tears and switching on the water works. I had just came from getting that news and then hoping to discuss our fears together and how we can work together for our daughter. Only to be put down and shouted at and made me feel like I was crazy and a terrible mother. My heart just sank! And obviously sank more when my son said what he said. I was disgusted at both myself and my partner. Its made me realise I cannot allow my children to witness this.
Dh is also saying he will not allow our dd to attend anymore appointments as she doesn't need it and that I just want to label her. He made me put of the appointment for 3 months blaming covid etc and if I took her to the hospital and we got covid it would be on me etc. TlI put my foot down with this appointment and this is thile result. Im now dealing with the silent treatment for 4 days now and basically getting treated like dirt.