Friends with benefits advice

[Sunseasand2021]

Cut a long story short.
Met a guy online dating. Both agreed to friends with benefits. It continues to be that and we’re 6 months on.
Difference is. Its gone from plenty of spontaneous sex to once a week and he wants me to stay over all the time. So I’ve been here 7 nights now, but he’s not affectionate so he’s not like all over me loved up.
I’ve offered to go home and give him some space but he says it’s cool and to stay and then plans dinner.

He doesn’t want to commit and neither do I right now.

What’s your thoughts.....

Seven days? My thoughts are you need to go home!

Your post is all about what he wants. What do YOU want? Surely the whole point of fwb is to avoid confusing situations and both just get your needs met?

Sounds weird. You need to decide what you want, then do it.

If you don't want to commit why on earth have you been there for 7 days? Have you not been to work?

You're not FWB though are you. And if you don't actually want to go home after 7 days together (regardless of what he thinks/says/wants), you've caught the feels.

I don’t see the point myself but agree with pp, what do YOU want? If you want to go home, go home!

I'm quite happy with the way things are. I don't have feelings myself for him but I do obviously care and like him as a person. I'm quite closed to any feelings right now.

As for not going home.
I'm in the process of buying a new house so am currently staying with my mum until that's sorted.
As for work. I've been signed off sick with a bad back.

I think its morphed into a relationship. You can now see what he wants and who he is. You've grown closer and it's not so casual or as exciting.

Have a think about what you want and then take action. It doesn't need to be what he wants.

I don't understand what sort of advice you're asking for. You've said your happy with things the way they are.

He's probably trying to do you a favour so you don't need to stay at your mums all the time, that's my thoughts.

It could be he's lonely with lockdown, so it's a novelty to have someone around to chat to ( unless not in the UK, so not a factor).
Consider that he may well want more than Fwb, as he certainly isn't treating you like one. He may just not be an outwardly affectionate person and have had complaints about this in the past. If the thought of becoming his GF makes you recoil inside, you are probably not on the same page so it could be doing him a kindness to end the situationship - which is more what this is.
The flip side is that if you start to consider him as a BF, the lack of affection may well get to you in the end. It sounds like you, quite normally, expect that a relationship involves a certain level of affection, so because that is lacking, you still see this as a fwb, but you together have broken many other rules of it, which has muddied the waters and this could just well be how he rolls all the time.
Either way, you will find out more by going home for a while and seeing how he reacts to that, and you will likely find that you miss him after spending so long with him.

Sounds like you are both bored and it's convenient.
I personally would hate to have someone staying at mine for 7 days, I've got my life to live.
My FWB stays the night occasionally, gets a coffee in the morning then he's off!

Thoughts? If you are happy saying there stay, if you want to go, go. Not fully sure I understand what you are asking though.

You are both acting as gf/bf without the affection and sex - you are sort of the opposite of FWB.

That's fine so long as it is what you both want. But you would both be wise to not get dependent on eachother, because at some point one or other of you will want a real bf/gf, and and will use the 'well we were only ever FWB' line as they drop the other completely.