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WWYD?

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WWYOUD0 · 11/03/2021 20:22

I’ve name changed as I don’t want a trail of my previous history following me on this thread. But I’ve been here a long time.

I’ve been divorced and single over 5 years now. I’m 40, 2 teens. Life is pretty sorted and stable.

I’ve used dating apps the past 4 years ( well not really in lockdown but on and off). In the beginning it was great, fun, exciting and I had many adventures.
Then it got boring, sex wasn’t just good fun and I started to want a bit more. Now I’m not saying I want a relationship as such, I don’t want anyone living with my kids and I.
I’m happy being single but I want a bit more than casual sex.
Trouble is I’ve dated men 15 years younger and 10 years older and they are all the same. In fact, I find the younger ones more genuine and less jaded and have an energy that equals mine.
Let’s face it, a guy 10 years younger isn’t going to want much past sex!
So I don’t know what to do, as things are going to start opening up, do I go back on the apps, buckle up and at least enjoy the company of younger men and take it for what it is, or do I just continue as I have done for most of the last year and have no irons, no nothing.
Just this really, what would you do? I swing between life is too short, get out there have a laugh and enjoy company , or just stay single and totally alone romantically.

N.b I have a life and live somewhere I would never meet any man I was attracted too, so dating apps are a must really.

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Fairycake2 · 12/03/2021 22:38

I feel pretty much the same as you but am going to give online dating another go and hope I can at least have some good nights out. You never know who you might meet!

WWYOUD0 · 13/03/2021 08:18

Whew, I’m glad I’m not alone!
It’s useful to see your thinking, I might try again and see what happens.

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CautiousBlonde · 13/03/2021 09:55

I’m in exactly the same boat OP.

I’m just relaxing and seeing what happens.

Fairycake2 · 13/03/2021 10:14

Might change my mind again. Had a nice chat with a guy from Tinder last night with promise of another. Woke up this morning and he's gone! Seems I need to re-find my thick skin!!

CorianderBee · 13/03/2021 10:15

Why wouldn't a 30 year old want more than just sex? It's not like they're 21

WWYOUD0 · 13/03/2021 10:49

@CorianderBee well yes, maybe they do. But not necessarily with a post 40 divorcee with teens.

@Fairycake2 sorry to hear that. It’s this kind of stuff that made me give them a rest.
Have rejoined hinge and will see if I last the day out. Worst part is seeing all the same people as before 😬

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