Tearful

[chipsnfish]

I suppose I am looking for some advice.

I've been tearful recently. I think it is a combination of the peri menopause and the things that are going on in my life.

I manage to get it together for Zoom meetings and do my job at home but can't really be bothered to do much else. For example it feels like a struggle to keep my house tidy. I have to make myself do the housework every week.

I'm about to lose my job and then there are other worries and anxieties. I live on my own and due to covid have avoided dating. I've been let down and hurt a few times and I'm quite wary now.

I recently met someone I liked but it's clear it's not mutual and so that glimmer of something away from the crap that is going on has gone.

I'm not sure whether CBT might work or if I should just try to get through lockdown and see how it goes. I have some supportive people in my life but don't feel that I can bother them any more.

Ah OP sounds like stuff has been really tough for you, sorry to hear that. I've found lockdown really hard- have you got a local NHS counseling service you could sign up to? although the wait can be long, the initial triage session might not take too long and even that can be helpful.

re your support network, I always think its cruelly ironic that when you're feeling low, the last thing you want to do is reach out. however....as my nonna used to say "you dont get letters unless you write them", maybe reach out to a few friends for a chat?
i know that feeling of not wanting to do anything. what has 'sparked' you in the past in terms of hobbies, interests etc?

Hi. Thanks for the reply. I could ask my GP to refer me to a counseling service. I do a hobby by Zoom but I'm a bit zoomed out at the moment.

Bumping. Hope you're ok op. I think lockdown as enhanced all sorts of shit feelings. Hopefully when we get back to a more normal way of living things will get better for you x

I think there are so many people who feel like this now. I’m not sure how much it helps to know you aren’t alone in it.

I cannot decide whether I think it’s healthier to zoom/Skype/FaceTime with others, or to reduce screen time.

This won’t help much at all, but I have found old fashioned voice calls to friends, family, and acquaintances to help the most. There’s no need to go too deep in these conversations. Connect and laugh.

I don’t know if this helps. I’ve been where you are off and on for a year now.

Thanks . I feel a bit better now. I've had to sort of bite the bullet and face things and I am less tearful but still suffering from anxiety.