Husband and silent treatment!

[BusyBee66]

I have been married to my husband for a long time and we have children together.
We’ve had a tough few years, where he’s told me on various occasions he wants a divorce, he’s also told a male friend, we have a shit and boring marriage. He has also said hurtful things to me in the past.
We have not been getting on well for some time, we have good and bad days but he does not communicate, after disagreements he will ignore me for days, until I confront him, he spends his evenings in a separate room, this has been happening for weeks, possibly months.
He will accuse me of being negative but when I reflect back, I know I haven’t done anything that is negative, apart from the odd moan, in fact I’ve listened to him and been supportive when he’s needed it.

Any advice please?

There’s nothing save here, he checked out long ago.

You can either continue accepting his awfulness or you can stop and move on. He doesn’t stay because he cares deep down, he stays because treating you like crap is something is more convenient being done whilst you are still together. The balls in your court not his.

Any advice please?

Stop living like this in the shadow of someone else.

I nearly binned you Christmas day
He's a total shit. I really hope you are in a position to set yourself free, if you are not, take steps to make it so.
Life's too short.

You need to disconnect mentally whilst planning your out.
Its difficult but if he threatens to divorce you etc just say
OK. When you've found a solicitor let me know. What shall we have for dinner?
Don't let him use threats as a weapon.
Once he realises you don't care then he will really panic.

Life's to short to live like this