Bit of a long story that has a backstory to it as well. So to sum up the relationship between me and my parents. All seemed fine growing up but now I've had extensive counselling come to realise my parents were physically and mentally abusive to me and Dsis. They were also abusive to each other which I and my Dsis witnessed and saw.
Generally, we have been 'close' in the sense that my M liked to have us close and made us feel guilty of bad when we led our own lives.
So I have a big milestone birthday coming up and M said she would be giving me X amount of money for it. It was a larger than usual sum. I didn't ask for this but was very grateful as that money would help so much as I'm a single parent to one child. A few weeks ago M turned around and said actually sorry but I can only afford to give you half of X amount now. I was a little disheartened but said yes sure I understand.
Now, this is where I feel annoyed not in the sense of the money but in the principle that I feel I do not matter. She told me she had no money, then she tells me they are saving for cosmetic surgery for my D to have abroad. Then yesterday she tells me she has 7k worth of savings and that my dad has now withdrawn over 20K from his business as a treat to himself and they are having a house extension.
So to me, I feel like I've been disregarded for my big birthday as she told me she had no money when in actual fact that is not the case.
I spoke to my partner about this and she completely got where I was coming from that it was not about the money and it was the principle of not feeling important to my parents.
Am I being silly? And yes I know it's their money to do as they wish but to give a gesture and then retract it for reasons that are not true has hurt.