Online dating - help

[lifeasweknowit82]

I don’t feel like I can really open up to people about my online dating and I found myself so down about it (again) tonight. I’ve met someone I’ve been dating for 5 months (we’ve swapped keys and it’s been going well). At the weekend I found out that his ex was back in the village where he lives. Today he’s been off radar (I think with work but I wound myself up). So I went snooping.... he told me they broke up at the end of 2019, then he told me March 2020 when I asked this weekend and now I’ve seen a photo of them from July 2020. I can’t work out in my head if this makes a material difference other than the fib. I feel annoyed but unsure whether to bring it up or not. I met him in October 2020 so no overlap but that’s a big difference in terms of being over someone. I really don’t want to get hurt again.

Geez even writing it out is cathartic... any thoughts would be so appreciated x

you swapped keys after 5 months?!
maybe slow things down 'till you know this person better...

I wouldn’t worry about him being over her or not, but it’s more the fact that he keeps telling lies. My experience is that when the white lies begin, they never stop...

If he lies unnecessarily about something like that then he lies easily. Be very wary.

Thanks both. I know it was maybe super early but we saw each other almost every night so it worked out from a point of view of being in the vicinity before the other had finished work. I’m a muppet sometimes. I just feel let down as he seemed to be the only person I’ve met who introduced me to people he knew/ didn’t make me always chase him. I felt wanted and valued and now I just.... I agree where to the fibs stop .

Sounds like lovebombing.
Why were you seeing each other nearly every night?
Keys after 5 months?
You dont know the man and you gave him a key....logistics dont matter, he could have waited in his car for you.