Where to begin when ending marriage with 2 DC

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I posted this thread on AIBU
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4177648-AIBU-to-have-left-my-kids-with-DH-to-see-dying-nan?pg=6

Things havnt been right since, I can barely stand to look at him. He barely spoke to me anyway so I doubt he even cares the shit he put me through when he was supposed to be supportive.

Over the last week we've had a row about pathetic things and it's all come to a head. I feel like I've reached that line, like when you know it's over. I don't want to be with him anymore. I do love him, but I can't spend the rest of my life with him.

I don't even know where to begin, I don't even feel sad for me but I do feel really sad for my DCs. They love him and he is a good dad, and cause I am making this decision that I want to separate I feel like they will think it's my fault.

My head is a mess, I need to hear some success stories of how kids react to divorce

Hi op just read your original thread and your dh doesn't sound too great.
I'm 18 months post split with 3 children and they are all doing great. They like visiting their dad and they have adapted very. We'll to all the changes.
I feel so free and at peace now too which is obviously the best environment for them too.
It's hard for the first few months and you wil be constantly questioning yourself, but it gets easier.
The guilt eases off and comments your ex may say to hurt you will bother you less and less honestly! I've never looked back!

In mn tradition, get your ducks in a row

Take important paperwork and put it somewhere safe, maybe with a friend or relative. Passports, marriage certificate, bank statements.
Get copies of his pensions and any personal statements

Also see if you can get a free half an hour in the phone with a solicitor, that way you'll have an idea of what you can and can't expect and what you can and can't do.

Solicitor.