‘D’H and I are going through a very rocky patch. The second in 5 years. It’s like history repeating itself. When something unplanned happens to him, he shuts down, stops communicating and makes decisions solely based on what he wants.
In between, he puts work first, still doesn’t communicate particularly well and ignores anything that he doesn’t like or want to do (from emptying the bins, to phoning a roofer when we had a leak (he was off work, I was working full time).
He’s over weight, snores terribly and has done nothing over the last 5 years to address this except buy mouth guards from the internet. We’ve not slept in the same room or had sex for the last 5 years.
I’m at the end of my tether with this cycle repeating itself again. I’ve found notes that I wrote 5 years ago and I could have written them last week. Nothing has changed.
He had a session with a relate counsellor last week. Apparently they said that there must be something worth fighting for as we’ve been together 17 years (it’s actually 21) and have 2 kids. Does that sound like something they’d say?
We’re going to have a joint session later this week and I don’t have any idea what to expect. What kind of questions will they ask? Is it as awful as I’m imagining?