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wow1111 · 08/03/2021 17:38

What's your opinions on 'men come crawling back after a few months, when they've left their partners'

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Kelly345 · 08/03/2021 17:46

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Kelly345 · 08/03/2021 17:46

Person ffs lol

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wow1111 · 08/03/2021 17:48

I mean more along the lines of, do you think that this is usually the case? Obviously hard to put all men into the same bracket..

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ComtesseDeSpair · 08/03/2021 17:54

I’ve never known it to happen, either to me or anyone I know.

But as you say, you can’t put people into a bracket just because of their sex.

If the break-up was amicable and they realise they miss their ex then it’s more likely than if they’ve met somebody else and are happy in their new relationship, isn’t it?

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wow1111 · 08/03/2021 17:58

I'm really not sure, read a few different posts on here and it seems that quite a few men (as this was because of the posts I have read) seem to leave their ex but once the single fun life has stopped, seem to start to message their ex again, and have even read posts that this has also happened a few years after.

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litterbird · 08/03/2021 17:59

Yes its happened to me and seen it happen several times with others. They leave, woosh off in to the sunset with grand gestures of I need my space, usually its a lover and the most amazing person they have ever met. Of course all the feelings and hormones start to wear off and bam they realise that this person isn't what they thought then yearn for the safety of the one they left behind. If you take them back then it will falter again after a few months then they go again, usually back to the OW they left you for in the first place. It took mine a year to realise it and then the emails started but was still in the relationship with the OW. He tried to come back for years and still remained with her. She left him after 4 years together in the end. If she could have seen the emails over that time he sent to try and get me to go back to him she would have been devastated. If someone has just split up with you dont start looking at websites on "how to get my boyfriend back"...I am ashamed I did that. Take it that they are gone for good. In my experience they have all returned, I didn't take them back. Some became friends, some I never ever wanted to see again.

PetalPath · 08/03/2021 18:09

Cold left overs are never that tasty.

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wow1111 · 08/03/2021 18:10

A friend had this situation, and now they are actually a really close strong couple now.. just wondered what other people's opinions are as I know that each relationship is different

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VettiyaIruken · 08/03/2021 18:10

Some do some don't. I don't think it's possible to predict.

KylieKoKo · 08/03/2021 22:41

To be honest, I don't think people leave long term relationships lightly. If they leave then it's generally because something wasn't working for them.

If someone leaves you I think it's healthier to focus on building a new life for yourself without them than hoping they'll regret their choice and come back to you

B1rdflyinghigh · 08/03/2021 23:19

Out of the 6 men I've dated (not lived with) in the last 5 years, 4 have come back. For some, it has taken 2 years, but they tried again. This is despite blocking them on the social media that I knew they were on, they've tried others. One even found my work e-mail address and emailed last week. They have all been after sex, (despite them initially saying this wasn't the case, it's not taken long via messaging to figure this out!) and they've all been told to sod right off!

Cas112 · 11/03/2021 15:32

Seemed to of happened with all my girl pals but never me! haha!

Thatwentbadly · 11/03/2021 16:55

@wow1111

I'm really not sure, read a few different posts on here and it seems that quite a few men (as this was because of the posts I have read) seem to leave their ex but once the single fun life has stopped, seem to start to message their ex again, and have even read posts that this has also happened a few years after.
Messaging a ex for a booty call or for an ego boost is not the same as them wanting to get back together.
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wow1111 · 11/03/2021 17:43

Oh I totally understand that, but read posts were they message after they've left their partner saying they regret it and want to try again etc

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wow1111 · 11/03/2021 17:44

Or you hear the male may have gotten into a rebound relationship and then realised that the grass isn't greener on the other side

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seensome · 11/03/2021 20:38

My last boyfriend came back after 4 months I think quite honestly I think he's too lazy to find someone new and came back to see if I was interested, I was but it didn't last, should of known that really and probably the same for me, the thought of having to start all over again, all it's done is waste time.

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