How will I get through this?

[rainbowdashsneeze]

I put a thread up the other day but I will give some background.

My partner went out to buy so some socks and when I got home later on Friday he had taken half of the house and left me.

I 100% believe there isn't another woman I really do. He is struggling mentally I get that and I helped him and I put up with a lot of abuse because of this.

I love him with all my heart I can't breathe I can't eat I can't sleep. My children are sad they have lost their step-father. I can't bear the pain I have never loved anyone before I met him. He is also the first person who I truly believed loved me.

I can't take this pain at all I just keep thinking I should have done something. People say it gets better with time I need it to get better now!!

I've taken some time off work! I'm begging to replace the furniture and I've also humiliated myself asking the kids dad to lend me the money for a TV (he did) luckily.

Please help me!

OP - are you the poster where the partner has 3 children with other women and abandoned you just before you had his baby?

He can’t be someone who made you put up with lots of abuse, and also be someone who truly loved you.

It’s an awful shock, just awful. And humiliating and belittling and all sorts of other attacks on your self image.
But, you’re away from an abuser and so are your kids.

There is a book that gets recommended on here often called something like ‘runaway husbands’ that might help?

If you want it to get better now, although that is a big ask, think about things slightly differently.

So you have supported this man through his mental health issues. You put up with abuse from him.

And he repays you by keeping silent about not only leaving but taking the kid's TV.

Why would you love someone who has so little concern for your children? Who will happily take take take in the relationship and instead of saying "I can't do this anymore" finishes it by take take take some more?

Clearly he has no concern about how his actions will affect you or your kids coming home to half a furnished house. Please have no more concern for him.

Change the locks before he comes back for the other half.

Hopefully your kid's das will see the purchase of a new TV as providing for them not a loan.

Honestly ex-thief is not worth a moment more of your energy. Enjoy not having to deal with any more abuse whilst trying to help. Don't take him back.

Look forward you are going that way.

@Krazynights34

OP - are you the poster where the partner has 3 children with other women and abandoned you just before you had his baby?

No I'm not.