Do you have some friends who don't arrange to meet up

[bigboydiditandranaway]

I have made friends with someone who lives closeby, we see each other at toddler group but it always seems to be me making all the arrangements to meet up, even though it's with another friend aswell sometimes.
Last week we arranged a play date and her & her dd didn't turn up, no phone call.

I don't know whether she's really bothered about keeping in touch. Shall i just stop asking her and wait for her to mention meeting?

i had a friend like that, i now let her do most of the arranging as i was so gutted that for like 8 weeks in a row she always cancelled at last min- i mean just as i was about to set off to meet her last min!!!

Use your time on friends that make the effort, life's too short. (unless she has problems of some sort, but then thats a different thread altogether...)

stop asking. she's clearly not that bothered.

It's out of order when someone just doesn't turn up to something, but I can be really rubbish at suggesting to meet up, especially as some of my friends are really organised and I am very disorganised, so maybe she does like keeping in touch but never suggests it cos you always do?

That wasn't a criticism, it's great to have an organised mate!

Erm. I don't really understand why you're asking this. She ditches you without even letting you know she can't make it? So disrespectful.

Find other friends. Don't ever make arrangements with this woman again. How very rude. I'm quite for you in fact. Can't believe you're not more indignant and haven't ditched her already!

Thanks for your messages, it's really good getting support off other mums.

I saw her yesterday and she didn't even mention why she hadn't turned up before, don't know whether she just forgot...but she has asked me &ds to meet up with her & her dd later in the week.

Sometimes i feel a bit lonely being a sahm so maybe that's why i've carried on asking this other mum.

Would you meet up with her?

ias i said i had a friend who kept letting me down, but i suppose i also was a little bored and wished her to turn up and kept making plans.... i went on for nearly 2 years with my friend!! and she still kept letting me down even when i had a toddler and a new baby!!! but i learnt not to a little after that!!

if you met up with her and she was ok and SHE invited YOU then i'd say give her the benefit of the doubt....

Thank you glaskham, i'll do that