Can I move to my mum's with my daughter during lockdown? Need to leave relationship

[Worryme]

I'm split so many different ways on which decision i should make. My relationship with DP died a long time ago, a lot has happened in 2020 to me personally (but who hasn't had anything happen right?) and i can't stand his insensitive, its done now, don't know why you're so depressed attitude.

My daughter got into a secondary school that I didn't realise is not a very good school , and I was so sure she'll get into our preferred ones. We were planning to move anyway to get away from noisy neighbours. However we had £1000 rent arrears due to my DP being furloughed last spring/summer. I don't work due to anxiety/health issues but I really do want to go back to work again. Also, its difficult to find part time work around my dd and occasional dp overtime. Its not easy to find work these days and who would take on someone in their early 40's and been out of work for about 10yrs.

Basically, i really am stuck as to what to do, my decisions are:-

Move with my daughter to my mum's and hope to God, luck or anything that will take pity on my situation that she will be accepted in the local school which is 7mins walk away. See if she will be given a place from their waiting list.

Move with dp away from the noisy neighbours and closer to preferred schools and put up with Mr insensitive, and continue arguing. Also, hoping dd will get into preferred school from waiting list.

If dd likes the school she got and hoping new headteacher will turn the school around to be a better place to attend, then no need to worry and I'll be happier too along with the fact we're living somewhere less noisy (but still in an unhappy relationship).

Leave, go to my mum's and home school her myself so I wont be tied down to having to travel a fair distance (20 mins train ride then 30 mins bus) from my mum's to dd's school. This one is a last resort but i have been seriously thinking about, even to the point of looking up and googling what to do, meeting other home school parents for advice etc. Also stalking the hall i used to take dd for drama to find that really nice and down to earth mum, who home schools her 3 kids due to the eldest being bullied at school.

I really needed to get this off my chest and air out my conundrum. I think i need another ear besides my mums. I don't really have any close friends I want to talk to about this and I've cried so much. I don't want to hurt my dd, and I want the best for her. I just don't know what to do.

You can move house and flee to safety. Do it OP

Yes you can. Any domestic situation can qualify for leaving the home to live elsewhere. Do it and dont look back. It wont get any better

Pack your bags and move to your mums. This is absolutely permissible for you to do this.

Yes! Do it. And good luck. Thinking of you. Xxx

Go to your mums @Worryme make you and your dd more happy and less stressed.

Why don't you call the school right now and see if they have places? And if not, ask where she would be on the waiting list. Then you'll know before the move. If they don't have any places for Y7 (I assume that's the situation), could you just homeschool for the year and hope one comes up for Y8? Either way I think you should leave your current situation, it will just give you a bit more info before you jump.

Thanks everyone at least I know I have that option to leave. I actually cried a little again when I read your replies, as I’m scared with how to go about doing this. It’s a big decision, and after a little chat with my dd last night, she said she’d be sad to leave her dad. It would also mean everything she’s ever known in the area as she’s not lived anywhere else, though we have lived in different homes but same borough.

@Clusters29 I called the school around 3pm and talked to their admissions guy. He said I would need to apply through my council but I can’t seem to find how, just going round and round in circles. I also mentioned we’d only be 7 mins walk away from the school from my mums; in which he replied my dd would be near the top of the waiting list. Through more research all pupils needed to do the borough’s 11+ test. Which my dd hasn’t done. Obviously, as we live in a different borough. It’s beginning to feel quite overwhelming and I don’t know where to start and what to do?

A pack came through from the school my dd got into, about how much it has changed since the new Headteacher was appointed. It mentioned a lot of fun activities for the new yr 7 kids and a form to fill out to let them know if we decided to take the school offer. My dp was reading out all the ‘fun stuff’, but I resorted to a quick text to “stop as we don’t know which school she’d be going to” as my dd was in the same room playing. He knows our discussions about how our relationship is not in a happy place and my thoughts as to what I may do. However, he still continues to play dumb or forgetful!