Last year I found out my partner had been using dating websites for over a year and a half. When confronted he said he didn't know and must of been from before we started going out (almost 10 years ago....), then eventually after I showed him bank statements showing he had paid multiple times to use the site he admitted he had been on and looking and even talked to a few women. He swears nothing ever happened and he never met any of them but when I asked why he had been on it in the first place his response was "I was looking for something better but didn't" and then that was it he said he wasn't going to talk about it anymore.
At the time I was 6 months pregnant with our secondly child, so after along talk I decided to stay mainly due to our eldest (I felt there was already too much upheaval going on with lockdown and new baby ect). Recently however its been on my mind alot, I'm not sure if its due to the fact everything's going back to normal and things are settling down or what but I feel really unsettled about it all now.
My friends aren't fans of his (never have been) they say he's to old manish and not right for me and I don't feel I can talk to my family about this as it would just upset them so I feel abit stuck and alone right now. I want to talk to him about this but I know it will just result in an argument and him shutting me down.
I think the bit I'm struggling with the most is he's never apologised or acted in anyway like he was wrong for doing it. I just feel like he didn't/doesn't care about how he's made me feel or what it could of done to our family.
I just don't know what to do. Do I stay and work harder to forget it and put it in the past? Do I stay and try to talk to him about it? Do I leave? Am I over reacting?