Should I tell my partner all my past health history?

[lulumonbear]

Okay. So.
I had a really embarrassing problem for a little while a few years ago (pre dating) when I couldn’t wee. I had severe and recurrent UTI’s and struggled with “flow”, I underwent loads of tests and for a little while was told I needed to use catheters to help me wee. They never really found a cause except for the UTIs but it all cleared up after a 6 month course of low dose antibiotics. I’ve had no problems for a good few years now.

I know I shouldn’t be embarrassed by it but I am, and I’ve not really told anybody about it. I’ve not mentioned it to my partner (of one year). He’s a health professional himself and because of that takes extra interest in my health, and a couple of times he’s asked me about my own health and has asked whether I’d had any previous health problems. I told him no, which I know technically is a lie. I feel awful for lying to him.

Would you be annoyed if your partner had hidden something like this from you?

None of his business - one of the things I impress on my DDs is to not over explain or justify past behaviour to anyone. I was terrible for this and wish I had been more private.

I've had health issues before I was married that my wife doesn't even know about and we've been together 25 years. If it hasn't continued to be an issue, no need to talk about it.

She obviously knows what's gone on since being together (plenty has), but not before.

I'd tell him politely it was none of his business.

Thank you all so so much, you’ve made me feel so much better. I really appreciate your replies. Thanks everyone.