I want to leave!

[Heartofgoldmumof2]

I have been married 7 yrs. I have 2 DCs 6 and 4 yrs. I really want to leave. I am the financial provider for the family. I own the house. I would ask him to go but I know he won’t leave.
I’ve been looking at properties on Rightmove to buy. I day dream about buying another house and then just leaving and moving out. Has anyone else done this?
I know it would be a stretch funding 2 homes. But I know if we divorce I would have to sell and give him half. I like the idea of keeping the house.
I don’t want to rent and pay off someone else’s mortgage.
But I just want to get away as quickly as possible

If you will be having the kids, it's not a given that he will get 50%.
However you could buy another house, I once had a client who did exactly what you are suggesting, but it was the H leaving, he just served divorce papers on her and moved out. He signed the original house over to her, the DC were adult so no legal issues there and the whole thing was done and dusted in 3 months. After a 25 year marriage.
Anyway, if you move out, presumably you will still have to get him to leave at some point, so you might want to work out how that will happen, so that you can sell it. You might be better served sitting it out and getting him to move now. It's worth getting legal advice as to the best way to get him out.

Hi
I thought my husband would not leave either and in fact he said he wouldn’t but when I said most ppl would leave when they are asked to I think something clicked and he agreed. I would ask and all he can say is no, if he does say no you can go from there. Personally If it’s a no I would arrange mediation if he agrees to it and continue as normal except distancing yourself from him, no dinners, laundry if this is something you do, no spending time together outside of what’s necessary for the kids and approach again say 2 was later with another ask to leave. Good luck