Feeling very alone in my lone parenting

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Not sure if this is the right board. Tbh there's probably about three it could go on. DS has SEN. application for EHCP assessment has just been turned down. Am trying to marshal everything to challenge it. Asked exh if he wanted to be involved in a phone call today or wanted me to just feed back. He said he wanted to be involved. I was relieved, I feel completely overwhelming
Ed by everyday life atm, never mind all the emotive administrative bollocks brought by this process. I was pleased he was getting involved, would be able to discuss the information firsthand so we could make decisions together. I was relieved that at least I could share one little bit of this constant fucking load.
He didn't take the call. They tried to patch him in three times. I've asked him to call to discuss the meeting. He hasn't called.

I'm just so tired. It's all so complicated and confusing and even feeding and housework feel like they're pushing me to my limit atm.

I just feel so alone.
I needed to tell someone.
It's so lonely being a lone parent.

Use SOSSEN or IPSEA to challenge being turned down for the EHCP.
sossen.org.uk/
www.ipsea.org.uk/

Both are excellent and will help you further re the EHCP.
Do look at these websites and post also on the SN;Children's part of this site.

Sad re your ex H not wanting to be involved, he is absolutely letting down his child. You are not doing that and will continue to fight his corner. Be a strong advocate and do not let the buggers get you down!.

Yes it is, I’m a
Lone parent to 4 (oldest 2 with asd) my ex has never been involved at all since we split. Never even been to the school.

Thank you both. He's called me back. He forgot and had no reception in the office. I think he may have picked up that in reaching breaking point. God, trying to navigate SEN parenting alongside co-parenting is so fucking additionlly challenging. Thank you for listening. Sendiass are being very helpful and I've requested a way forward meeting with the LA so I think that's the next thing. Plus starting the diagnostic pathway with DD when she goes back to school. She's 5 and showing signs. Sigh.

I would all the same use fully independent services like Sossen or IPSEA.

Sendiass departments can work with some LEAs in the same building so are not fully independent of them and can therefore tow the party line. Use their service by all means but remember they can have such limitations.

Has GP not referred your DD to a developmental paediatrician?.

No. SENDCO is going to do an observation in class but DD hasn't been in school since November.
Will look at those links. Thank you. Sendiass have been incredibly supportive so far but I take your points on board