BF telling his ex wife he loves her and told me i imagined it

[singlemumof1startingover]

Hi,

Im looking for advice on a 2year relationship. I ended it 5weeks ago and i have changed my number and tried to walk away. However he keeps turning up and bomboarding me with emails to give him another chance. I feel like i felt very strong on my decision in ending the relationship. And now his emails are starting to get into my head and im questioning if i made the right decision.

I found out he has been telling his ex wife he loves her and has been saying this constantly over 2 years, i found tons of messeges, she messeged him and asked to give things another go and his reaponse was "i need time to get my head around it and i think you need time to think about it all as u have just come out of a relationship"

He then arranged to meet her to talk about it, to which he claims he said to her straight away, i am in a long term relationship and happy. However i dont know if this is true.

I know his ex wife has been bombarding him for 2years with photos of the two of them, untold abuse to me and him, and all sorts of crazyness, he told me she said after he said he dont want her that she said she was confused and dosent want him back... it all feels like a big game

I felt very strong walking away because it was clear he was hanging on to something (they divorced because he cheated with a lot of women) he also has been holding onto 6 massive crate boxes of photos of the two of them and ignored my pleAs to give them back to her.

I knew nothing of her sending any of these texts because he told me i was crazy and imagining it, and i didnt know anything about them meeting to have this chat or that this converstion happened

I think im looking for some reassurance that i made the right decision xxxx

Also note that i suspected that they were having this private chats for months and he told me i was nuts crazy and delusional and all along i was right

i would definitely say that you have made the right decision for this occasion :) always go with your gut x

100% the right thing to do!

block him and move on

Block him....he cheated on his ex wife with loads of women...he will do the same to you.

Absolutely the right decision.

I'd block the emails and if he turns up on your doorstep I'd tell him that this now constitutes harassment and if he comes round again you will call the police. You have ended the relationship and do not want to see him again.

He needs to accept this. It sounds like a game to him, but you don't need to play it.

walk away 🌺

Thank you for replying, its been a really turbulent relationship, he told me once during an arguement he slept with her then the next day said he didnt, and only said it to hurt me, they would sit and txt and row on every holiday, birthday, xmas and im mentally burned out. I felt so strong and good when i changed my number and left and blocked him on social media, but then these emails keep coming from differnet email addresses, cards in the post, he turned up. My therapist said he is marcisstic because of so many other things that have happened and we have broken up so many times, none of my previous relationships were like that, tuff going through a break up alone, let alone during covid, ive hid my pain and upset from my little boy the whole time, i just feel so alone :( thank u for replying its really helped xxxx

Definitely keep that relationship a thing of the past.

it really shouldn't be this hard OP 🌺

You have 100% done the right thing. And you need to block his email address immediately.

He was unable to stay faithful to his wife. To someone he vowed to stay faithful to.

There is absolutely no way he has been or ever will be faithful to you.

A good relationship is easy. There’s just none of this sh1t. And you don’t need it. You did the right thing. Keep him gone.

Any man that got divorced because he " cheated with a lot of women" will most likely cheat on you as well.

keep him blocked, he's a nasty piece of work.

This is a no brainer. Don't ever go back. He's incredibly immature and a liar.

My god you made the right decision well bloody done

Stay strong. You have absolutely done the right thing. You do not need this loser back in your life. He behaved awfully.
Hopefully he will give up soon. Delete the emails without reading, don't let him get into your head.
Lockdown will be over soon, better weather ahead, a fresh start for you.

You are better than all of this, he is beneath you OP.

they divorced because he cheated with a lot of women

I mean... this should have been an instant walk away rather than even date this guy let alone have a long term relationship with him.

Walk away for good, never go back into a relationship with him again. Ever.

He sounds like a stalker now. You did the right thing. He's was
and still is a cheater.

Any further contact is harrassment now.

Get this person out of your life. talking from experience
He can't let go easily so make it easy.

You definitely did the right thing by ending it. If it helps, write down everything bad about him and what he did so you can look at it if you ever start to doubt yourself again

Manipulative twat, you have done the right thing and are better off without him!

I’d threaten him with the police if he carries on.

Can any of you guys recommend any good apps for meeting mums and making friends? It would be nice to meet some mum friends xxx thank u for your replys it helped me alot, today i stuck to my words