Did he love her ?

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Was with my ex partner two years and when I used to put kisses on his messages he never does. his words were ‘it’s not his thing! So we continued never sending kisses .. for two years!. I saw from previous gf he used to send kisses!
. It’s very confusing for me .
He was never jealous of me (I know that sounds bad) but in an element of a relationship you have feelings for your partner . He used to tell me he loved me but he Never invited me down places with his friends ever. .
We broke up for a year and a half and he never got in a relationship but then he started seeing my friend a few months before Christmas . My ex is not the sort to go full serious with someone and he had a long time while split up to get with anyone but he started seeing my friend !
For five weeks he told her he loved her . Spent every weekend with her . Invited her with his friends down the football club and planned holidays with her . She cheated and they broke up before Christmas . He was really horrible to me in the messages and I know we had had a nasty break up but he was really mean . Then he went and slept with someone else who I knew! Is that someone who was thinking of me or loved me ?

. He’s since come back and told me he always loved me he knows he’s made mistakes and I to be honest I have always loved him. But obviously I have suspicions of the whole thing .
He told her he loved her after weeks! I asked if he sent kisses on messages and he did ! He invited her everywhere and yet for the past few weeks he’s been doing his own thing every alternative weekend (which I think is healthy ) but why did he treat her like he cared about her if he didn’t .
Iv spoken to the ex friend and she said he got jealous of her a couple of times and was very infatuated with her but obviously she cheated and they broke up.
He is adamant he was glad and he was thinking of me the whole time but it doesn’t make sense .
I’m very hurt that he found it so easy to say he loved her and be like that but found it hard work to put a kiss at the end of my text .

I just feel like iv been treated differently . I know everyone makes mistakes and can have rebound relationships but this is really bothering me. X

I think you know you didn't get treated the way someone should love you and he wouldn't of got with your friend if he cared that much. So he's come back after it hasn't worked out for him, charming! He's not genuine.

The kisses on text thing is absolutely ridiculous. They mean nothing and the sooner people stop adding them onto the ends of messages and grow up the better IMO.

As for him, he sounds like a loser and you can do better. Tell him to jog on and work on building your self esteem and stop putting kisses on the end of all your messages... you'll feel much better

he started seeing YOUR FRIEND

block this Dick 🌺

Could it be that you were the rebound?
Hes coming back because his love wasn't returned by the next person he had feelings for, but he knows you give him what he is after - love.

It will be a matter of time before he wants to find a relationship where he can give and receive what he is looking for.

You deserve to be loved back, but he isn't the one who can give you it. He has proven that.

Wtf did I just read....why did you have him back

Don't understand why you'd have him back after all that really

You need to grow up. Grown ups don't have relationships or even friendships with people who are horrible to them and make them feel bad.

You have a relationship with somebody because being around them makes you feel really nice. It's as simple as that. If they start making you feel horrible/confused/questioning yourself/any other negative thing, you stop spending time with them.

It's not based on how many kisses people put on texts or who feels jealous of whom. It's not high school.

' I asked if he sent kisses on end of texts and he said he did '
I'm sorry but how old are you? Genuine question

I think there are men (and women too probably) who will only express lots of affection and love towards people they feel insecure about - when you readily return their love they don’t feel they have to bother, and indeed can be quite cruel/disdainful. Sounds like your friend wasn’t that into him (I’m guessing, as she cheated) and maybe he sensed that and that was why he was so much more full on.

My horrible ex was massively affectionate towards his ex-wife (I was friends with him at the time, which is how I know), always telling her he loved her etc. She was never that in to him. He then met a woman OLD who wasn’t much into him either and he was WILDLY full on with her - actually told her he loved her before they had even met. Then there was another OLD woman who adored him and he treated her like shit. And then there was me, and I adored him (bloody idiot that I was) and he treated me like shit - actively told me he wasn’t in love with me after years and when we were living together. Etc etc.

When he dumped me and I got with someone new he was back, telling me he loved me in excessive terms, proposing marriage (FFS), etc etc ad nauseam. Because I didn’t want him any more.

It’s the shitty behaviour of a shitty man. Dump him and find someone who is unafraid to return your love in a way that makes you happy and secure.

Don’t think you are sorry Louise . Think you’re one of these people who come on forums to kick people when they are already down . Doesn’t matter how old I am. it bothered me . Doesn’t matter whether it sounds pathetic to you. What iv taken time to write , bothered me .

Lovelydiscusfish Thank you for taking the time explaining that to me . It really made sense and is very true . My ex had a couple of ex partners . One he was really the same with me with , and by the sounds of it she was totally in love with him . One of them , not so much and he tried and tried.

I agree completely. This friend my ex tried to date wasn’t into him and he was trying to be with her .

Going to try move on with my life. It’s been a rollercoaster and all the proof has been staring me in the face . . Thank you for everyone’s help

Surely the bigger problem is that he is fucking mental. He dated your pal after you split (cunt move. And cunt friend too). And he told someone he loved her 5 weeks in...Google 'love bombimg'. It is sick.

Drop the nasty man and move on with your life. The only person he loves is himself.