Ever Wondered About An Ex?

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I saw someone for a short time several years ago. I suppose I can't really call him an ex. There was good chemistry and then he was out of my life. He ended it as he didn't want a relationship.

He's not on social media and I've always wondered what happened to him - has he moved on, who is his type etc.

I am over him and I suppose I am being nosey. I can look at social media and see that other exes have moved on or haven't aged well and it's been good closure.

Anyone else ever wondered about someone?

Nope.
Although it's far more normal to be curious than to not give a fuck. 😁

I'm friends with most of them on fb. I don't go looking but I see them crop up from time to time. I've never been through their profiles though.

Yes I have, especially one who went back to live in Australia and whose name is common enough not to be able to be found.

I got in touch with one recently from 21 years ago. Thought it would be a light flirt and move on. Nope. Total head fuck. He leads a very different life to me and I have essentially taken my whole life choices apart to examine and think about. It’s been really good on one hand but hugely emotional and intense. I’m married (very happily). Thank feck the chap lives thousands of miles away or it could be quite tricky.

I do. One lives close to me, not on sm. I've never bumped into him! I heard he got married but I know nothing else. Would love to bump into him, I'm in a great relationship now and nothing would happen, but he was a good bloke and we got on great. We didn't get together properly because our lives were just so different and it was complicated. I often think about how he is!

Chemistry and attraction both still very much in evidence!

I’m also in touch witr loss of other exes, none of whom I’ve had a similar experience with-the rest it’s all been very ‘nice’ and just nice to know they are all ok and happy.

Yes he has married several times and I believe has several children i feel I dodged a bullet really i mean he had the most gorgeous chocolate brown eyes his parents were lovely but they guy was a dick

Yes. My first love. We were together for 6 years and it ended badly. I last saw him about 22 years ago and he said he still loved me but I was newly pregnant with ds1 and I had moved on.

I've never seen him since but often look for him on social media but never found him.
Nothing would ever happen but I'd like to know he's ok and happy.

No dh asked me once I replied no I have enough nightmares as it is, but I hope he’s sober and finally happy without being bitter.

@Haggisfish wow- pretty much identical situation to you. Complete head fuck!

@Guavasarethenewpink really?! I might pm you. Honestly it has thrown my world upside down, even though I am exceptionally happy and content.

I’m friends with several of my exes, but that’s probably because once I’ve broken up with someone I never fancy them again. It’s like a wall goes up, I just can’t see them in that light anymore.

Wouldn't be something I'd be interested in doing. They're exes for a reason. I'm civil with my ex for the benefit of the children at social events etc but have zero interest in checking out my other past partners.

@Haggisfish Mine too. I thought I was very happy (happily married, amazing kids etc) but this has completely thrown me. Happy to chat- would be nice to talk to someone going through something similar!

@Guavasarethenewpink I have pm you.

I've done my internet snooping of an ex from way back. He became husband and father but is recently widowed. I'm happily married.

I internet snooped another ex. Would have been a FWB situation today. He's done well for himself, through his own efforts. He is a husband and father. Neither of us covered ourselves in glory. Some things are best left in the past.

My only comment is that he showed me a modest office block and said he would rent somewhere like that one day for his business. Then get bigger premises as the business grew. From the quietly confident tone of his voice, I felt that he really would do that one day. That's exactly what happened.

Step away from the social media!! Honestly... have just come out of a massive headfuck situation thanks to my old bf from years back. He contacted me and was pretty continuous with it, I was cautious at first as we were both married and both in stressful marriages (well I was and he claimed to be). Lines were slightly blurred as we were also good friends before and after we split. It was mainly his constant messages, photos the odd song but nothing else but he moaned a lot about his wife and mean ALOT. I didn’t really comment much but I trusted him because of our history and confided things to him about my life and DH and before we knew it we were in emotional affair territory but hadn’t done it deliberately! A lot of our contact was texts but some calls, after a while I looked back over some of it and there were 10’s of thousands of messages. Mainly about mundane things and usually driven by him. He’s always been a flirty person but our texts were not really massively flirty, mainly cheeky banter but he used to send Hearts a lot etc. 🙄. Long story short, there was still masses of chemistry and I really started to have proper feelings again 😬😬, he talked about what could have been etc. It all started coming to a head and his wife found them all somehow and that was that!! It was like losing a really close friend who had become a constant source of support to me. He had to cut me off which I understand but I feel like some sort of harlot and I feel like an idiot for trusting him etc etc. Turns out it was some sort of pathetic mid life crisis under the guise of friendship and support. I know I was stupid, really stupid but it happened so gradually I hadn’t realised what had happened!! Please don’t roast me!! I just wanted to let you know that I wish I had cut it off at the start and not gone there as it’s massively messed me up at a time when I didn’t need it!! Thankfully he is in another country and no chance I’ll bump into him anywhere!!

Sure, but I'm nosy.
It was interesting to see how their lives turned out. Had a brief phone chat with a couple, catching up, talking about people we knew. No romantic feelings at all.
We live very different lives.
It was nice to snoop though.

I'm very nosy. I've had exes from way back make contact and I had brief catch ups with them. There's an ex I think I could have been friends with but his messages got too flirty.

As for the one I mentioned I felt like I was punching above my weight looks wise. I guess I'm curious to see if he's settled.