Argument Phrases You Hate!

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DH & I don’t argue half as much as we used to but had a humdinger today ( probably not helped by DD’s attitude, mess everywhere & generally being fed up with lockdown). Anyway, if I go on, he will say that I’m “ banging my gums together” & that enrages me! I had a real go at him about it today & said it’s disrespectful & could well be interpreted as misogynistic. He replied that he does respect me but when he’s pissed off, stuff comes out that wouldn’t normally. Are there any phrases that you hate in an argument?

"Oh don't be a (whatever) for once in your life, take a day off"

Oh also when you're angry and someone says "don't get excited."

I'm not excited.

I'm angry.

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dinosaursobsessedson yes annoyed but also upset because basically he’s implying that what I have to say doesn’t matter. I got really upset today because I tried so many times to get my point across & it ended in a shouting match. It seems it’s ok for him to say stuff but not me

Some random dude in an airport told me about not using "you always & you never" in arguments.

The banging gums thing is annoying, is it a Northern saying tho?

wandawombat DH is from The Midlands

DHs says 'alright you've made your point now let it go. But he really means shut up I'm not listening anymore!!
Or the one that really sets me off ... "whatever!'
He's like a teenager sometimes.

DH also says “ I can’t help but hear you” - hearing is not the same as listening & accepting!

“You’ve always got to have the last word!!!”

My DH tells me I argue like a lawyer. I take it as a huge compliment.

Ceriane my reply to that is “ No I haven’t “ lol 🤣🤣🤣

Another one is “ I don’t want an argument “ - well, do you think I do mate?!!

Next time I’m walking away before he can start! DH is similar to my DF in many ways & one is using sarcasm. I hate it!

Ugh, dh will invariably end up saying ‘oh here we go ago, you always ‘insert some bullshit to dismiss me’’ it drives me fucking insane, it’s so bloody dimissive, literally anything I feel really strongly about gets lumped together in the here we go again pile. I’ve just pissed myself off even typing it out

I could write a novel on shit my DH comes out with.

Ex used to say "give your head a wobble"

It made me FURIOUS

If I ever have a go at him he just asks if I’m ‘due on’. Grrrrrrr......

"Well, if you don't know, I'm certainly not telling you!"
I've been accused of turning on the waterworks for crying.
That stung, because I'm not the type to cry ordinarily.

'Are you done yet'

If I was faintly, remotely critical of ANYTHING my stbxh did, ever, like leaving the toilet in a disgusting state or weetabix crumbs all over the table and floor between table and cupboard, I'd get "Well you'd better be bitchy about it". Every time.

Bastard.

"Fine. You crack on."

Usually when he's backed into a corner and has to admit he's wrong. Instead of doing that, he'll say "fine" in a way that suggests he knows he's right but he cannot bear to discuss this with me any longer. And then he'll say "you crack on" which pisses me off immediately because it's so dismissive and means I never ever get the closure of him saying "I'm sorry, you are right."

"Oh, you funny little thing!"

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Those kinds of retorts are designed to deliver the maximum amount of frustration and goading to the injured party. Never saying sorry is also a killer.

Constant arguing is destructive, but having someone who shuts down all arguments by refusing to engage at all is also unhealthy in my opinion. I think it's better to sometimes shout it out and get rid of that negative emotion than to bottle it up. Talking things over calmly before it gets to that stage would be even better, of course, but my husband refuses to discuss certain things at all, which just leaves me feeling as though issues are unresolved. When I've reached breaking point/am emotional I just snap and start shouting, which I know is the wrong way to go about it, but what to do when you don't have recourse to any outlet?!

"You NEED to......shut the fuck up, cop yourself on, stop being a fucking bitch/c..t," etc etc

"your not my mum"

Fuckin riles me up. So childish