Dp cannot keep erection.

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As the title says really, dp is struggling to keep an erection for longer than a few minutes which is barely long enough for us to even really have full sex.
We have been together for 12 years with two dc and have always had an amazing sex life, but over the past year he has been slowly losing his erections as soon as he goes to enter me however during foreplay it seems to stay semi hard, so if he does lose his erection we just end up both masturbating to reach climax and it's starting to get me down, as I'm worried he doesn't find me attractive anymore.
I dont really know how to approach the subject without embarrassing him or hurting his feelings.

If you've been together, you should be able to talk to him about medical issues. Just approach him calmly and talk about it. He should get his hormone levels tested as soon as possible along with a general exam. High blood pressure, for example, could be a culprit. Hopefully, it's not a porn problem.

There could be many reasons for it, I’m assuming he hasn’t been to the drs recently with the pandemic going on but it can be due to diabetes, high cholesterol or high BP. If it’s been going on for the past year he really needs to speak to the Dr.

www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/sexual-and-reproductive/erectile-dysfunction-impotence

Obviously I'm able to talk to him, but he feels embarrassed by it we managed to laugh it off the first few times it happened, but now its happening everytime we have sex I'm more concerned.

He does watch porn and we do also watch it together, so I dont think that it's an issue. We also have a fairly good diet and hes quite slim and fit, cycles to work everyday and walks everywhere else.

Sorry, just so I'm clear, is he fully aroused when watching the porn?

How old is he? Isn't there a thought that too much cycling can damage men in this way?

@eatsleepread no he is generally only semi hard, the same as if were together.
He's 40 and I'm 35.

You need to talk about whether he can maintain an erection while watching porn/he is alone or whether it is just during sex. Then you'll know if it is psychological or physical.

Well, there's no doubt he knows about it, and he knows you know, so you might as well talk about it. Amazes me people don't talk about stuff even though they share the most intimate times. Anyway, this will have nothing to do with his attraction for you. It can be down to lifestyle, age, general health. Had a recent chat to my BF on a similar matter - a bit less rigid of late we both noticed, though could still DTD. We worked out the issue, in his case painkillers he was taking for an injury, he'd rather put up with the discomfort than lose some rigidity . Point being, you need to discuss to get to the bottom of it.Whatever it is, it won't be you.

Just picking up on the part where you said he cycles everyday. That can effect the nerves in the area and lead to Erectile issues - make sure his saddle is a soft gel one.