Viagra

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I'm a namechanger as am a wee bit embarrassed...

Dp has always had a few problems "downstairs" but have been manageable until recently. Ds was born 7 months ago and since then (or before as we didint do much while I was pg) he has been having problems getting or maintaining an errection. He's not sure whether its stress at work and obviously our life change but its causing problems for us. He tries to avoid sex incase he cant manage, I feel crap, even though he has assured me its not my fault.

He has mentioned impotency but I dont think he bwill go to the doctors, so I was wondering if there was anywhere I could get some Viagra to try, see if it improves things - if so then he might actually go to doctors. I cant bear the thought of things being like this for the rest of my life

Your sense of embarrassment is actually misplaced. It should not be at all embarrassing or shameful for him to admit to his GP that this problem exists - he is certainly not the only man who has problems with erectile dysfunction.

He needs to go to the Doctors to discuss this problem with his GP. Why not go with him too to give moral support?. There may be an actual medical reason for this problem but it needs further investigation along with being talked about openly with the GP in the first instance. His problem may not be suitable for use of viagra. They'll have heard it all before so that is yet another reason why he should not feel embarrassed or "less of a man".

Self medicating of medicines like Viagra is not at all to be recommended. If you were to place an order for Viagra via the internet you run the risk of getting a forgery (viagra is a widely forged medicine, not just to say misused). As mentioned as well his problem may not be responsive to Viagra and he may not be suitable to take this in the first place.

Get him to go to his GP and go along there with him!!!.

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Its not so much embarrassment as wanyting to keep it private IYKWIM? I have a few RL friendson her and wouldnt feel right discussing this withn them - plus dp would be mortified.

I think its a great idea to go to doctors, and would have no problem going w2ith him, but I dont think there is a snowball in hells chance of him agreeing - he is reluctant to talk to me about it never mind anyone else - I know that he should be able tgo but he just isnt a big talker - ex marine, manly "only women talk about stuff type"

Unfortunately I dont know swhat else to do

thank you for being so kind - alittleone2 - youhave mde me cry... dam hormones

also can't this sort of problem be an indicator of other health problems (not wishing to scare you) I think it could be early heart disease.

He would be prime candidate for heart disease, smoker, overweight, little exercise

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Hope I haven't upset you either it's just some memory of reading an article about if more men sought help for this issue then often it was an indicator of other health problems that then could be treated and prevented IYSWIM

I have a thread here on this subject, as we are also suffering the same problem at the moment. Definitely go to the GP rather than self medicating (actually I think there's a long thread in the archives about self medicating with viagra, which you might also want to take a look at).