Hello -
Just looking for a bit of an outlet from the past few months and understand these relationships i'm trying to untangle myself from.
Getting out of one is absolutely the right thing to do. Long story short the 'idiot one', there was a instant 'spark' and 'attraction' and i always had that nice nervous and excited 'butterfly feeling you get' when i was with him. Anyway he began to go quieter and quieter on txt/calls with the usual excuses, work is tough, i'm doing tons of DIY at home, i never saw your text etc. etc. But whenever I would decide to be done he would reappear and then a few weeks later the same would happen and he'd disappear. Same excuses again. He just didn't care and instead of me seeing this, every time he 'clicked his fingers' i came running. For me i just couldn't shake the butterfly feeling and the nervous/excitement but guess he could quite easily. So now trying my hardest to see him for how he treated me and telling myself how little what we had meant to him. Seems we were never on the same page... this all came to an end in January having started in August/September. And admittedly i still have hopes to hear from him again... feelings are so annoying!
So the great guy is a neighbour who lives in the apartments block facing mine. We got chatting a while back as I recently got a little puppy and was out walking with her in the garden between our flats. He's amazing, he's thoughtful and really funny, we get on so well and i love to spend time with him we do so much together. I also have a DS who is 11 and they enjoy spending time together as well. My DS hasn't had it easy with his dad being completely out of the picture (the dads choice, not mine) But for me there is just no attraction to this man or feelings developing for him. I really wish there were but we've been seeing each other so much for the past month and I still feel nothing more than wanting to be friends. He has let me know on numerous occasions he feels more. He even turned up with flowers the other day... just out of the blue!
I also know that i am being selfish as i'm worried if i admit to having no feelings he may not want to be in my life as much anymore or at all and i'd miss him a lot. Maybe i'm not being patient enough or i'm still hung up on the idiot. I'm curious to hear everyone's thoughts because i am 33 an i'd love to be done with the idiots out there.