My Partner's New Puppy Is Ruining Our Sex Life

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My partner decided to get a puppy. I wasn't thrilled but since our relationship was somewhat new, I felt like the only thing I could do was be supportive in his decision. He had no clue what he was getting into. Now the puppy has effectively ruined our sex life and I feel like the dog is the center of attention and our relationship is put to the wayside most of the time. It is enough that he has to spend tons of time training her (which I completely understand and support) but there has to be some boundaries. The puppy should NOT be sleeping in the bed with us in my opinion. That is essentially the only alone time with him I get to look forward to. Am I being unreasonable? It's hurting my feelings and starting to make me resent him and the puppy.

I get why he prefers the puppy...

@Wanderlusto

Why do you think you need to be supportive of a decision he made himself? One that inpacts your relationship greatly.

Fair enough if you lived separately but not in your house.

It's a relatively new relationship? Good, bin him. He has already showed you he is inconsiderate and selfish.

The puppy is not the problem. The man is. He is not relationship material.

Yet more classic mumsnet hyperbole - man gets puppy, man must be a selfish prick not fit to have a relationship with.

It is advised to let young puppies sleep with you and slowly transition them to their own bed. How is it ruining your sex life? Is it trying to join in? If you have sex with the dog in the room it’s hardly going to know what you’re doing is it?

My dog is definitely not an aphrodisiac and he does sometimes get in the way of my sex life! If I lock him out of the bedroom he howls! Mostly he sleeps under the bed when my boyfriend is here so it’s not too bad. My dog is 3, as a puppy he was the spawn of Satan and would definitely have ruined everything!!!

If you aren’t a dog lover and he is this may not be the relationship for you. My boyfriend loves my stupid dog almost as much as I do. He greets the dog before he greets me, the dog gets the first cuddle etc... doesn’t upset me at all but I love the mad dog!

My dog sleeps on the bed and doesn’t interfere with dtd, she just gets off and lays somewhere else.

Love me love my dog, I wouldn’t date someone that didn’t love or like my dog.

OP as someone who neither cares for nor understands dogs, you are obviously not relationship material for him.

My sympathies entirely with him and the puppy.

Personally I wouldn't be happy with the dog sleeping on the bed.

No you're not being unreasonable. I'm not sure if it's advised for dog owners to let their dogs sleep in bed with them. Something to do with asserting boundaries like they would expect in a pack. Some dogs can turn quite dominant and unpleasant if they're allowed to think they're boss (which they can do if they're allowed to sleep on the bed like this). Plenty of owners get unreasonably emotionally defensive when challenged over this, but I don't think it's a good idea no matter how snuggly, comforting and appealing it may be.

It's clear he's made a decision here to prioritise his dog over you.

@Closetbeanmuncher Agreed. Dogs nuzzle and sniff shit when they're out & about and all sorts of things. Another reason not to have them on your sheets.

Is it just because it’s a baby and needs extra care and it’s temporary or is he is always going to be having the dog on the bed?

You just need to ask that question.

I would not want to share a bed with a dog so it would be the end for me. It’s the kind of slightly odd situation that when looking for a partner you don’t really immediately think of.

People can have very strong preferences when it comes to pets. Some of us may know why we have a strong preference and some of us may not.

Jealous of a puppy. That's a new one

Puppies are little for a very short time. It will only be a matter of weeks until the puppy can sleep away from your BF. Either wait it out, or if the problem is really that you don't like dogs, then end the relationship.

It's not about any sex life in my opinion, even if he was single I think he would be doing the wrong thing to have the puppy in bed (or even on it for more than a few seconds). Not a way to train a puppy.