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[louisehall]

Anyone else's partner literally do hardly anhtbjng to help with baby?? She's 8 month I'm on maternity on my own 7-7 Monday to Friday
Granted he's at work but comes home gets in bath straight away and takes himself out for a run for a hour n by the time he's back baby's in bed
He does this every night so only sees her on a weekend
Doesn't ever bath or put to bed I have to beg on a weekend if I can have a bath to be told ' no longer than 20 minutes '
And if I ever question what he does he says or how much he helps I get ' I'm on maternity it's my job it's what I'm getting paid to do ' and it's so fucking annoying and feel I nah aswell be a single parent

Wow, so many issues for me...
He doesn't want to spend time with his own child? what's that about? Most partners I know bust a gut to get back in time to spend a precious hour or so with their little ones on a week day.

"it's your job" - well, not many jobs are 24/7 and only allow you 20mins for a bath!

Having to beg to have a basic need met is wrong.

Also...what;s going to happen when you're NOT on maternity leave anymore? Is he going to step up and share duties then? ha, I'm guessing not.

What value DOES he bring?

You REALLY need to talk with him.

Telling you you've only got 20 mins for a bath would be enough for me to leave with the baby.
Why the hell should you even have to discuss that kind of shit in the first place, let alone doing sod all during the week.
He clearly doesn't get give a damn. How sad for you and your baby.

I’d go back to work and force that lazy shite of a husband to pull his weight. He doesn’t like you much, does he?

Go back to work? It's the easiest way to even things up.

You’re getting paid to stay home with DD just like he’s getting paid to go to work, right? I mean that’s the point he’s making?

So he goes out to work for his wage and you stay home with DD. So by his own logic you both ‘clock off’ for the day. When he finishes work for the day so do you!

Don’t give him the option OP. Your ‘work’ day finished when he walked through the door and now you’re equal co parents.

As for ‘no longer than 20 minutes’ just who the hell does he think he is OP? Do you live in a dictatorship? Are you a second class citizen? Does he go to work 24/7 or does he just expect you to deal with DD (your ‘job’) 24/7?

Seems like he’s just a self absorbed AH to me.

When you go back to work, he will probably think up other excuses for opting out of fatherhood (he works longer hours/ his job is more stressful/ he gets paid more etc).

If I were you, I’d tell him to step the f*k up or fk the f*k off. Some men pull this kind of shit because society has such low expectations of them parenting their children.

Sounds like he's not much into family life. At least right now, i know some people, especially men, get more involved when the child is older and can be more interactive - i admit i'm kind of like this as well.