Sister in law gone all quite on me

[James1991]

Hi All.
So I have a three sister in laws(wifes sisters) who I get on well with.We are a close knit family except for one sister in law.However, I have got on well with her as we have the same interests etc and she says I make her laugh.
For a bit of background,her and my wife are not as close I was to the sister in law.My wife was fine with this.Recently however my sister in law has blocked my calls and seens to be keeping her distance from me.I am confused as we have not had a falling out.My wife doesn't seem to care at all.
The reason why its bothering me is because I thought we got on well and I am happily married so there was nothing of the sort to give off wrong impression.
Any guesses as to why a woman would do that?

Thanks for reading.

We have no more idea than you do. Our vaginas won't give you the insight you're after. You are the one closest to her. I would suggest that you leave her alone if she isn't interested in keeping a friendship with you. I assume there is a reason your wife isn't interested in this.

I knew someone quite well and they stopped contacting me.

Have you any idea why?

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Why don't you ask your wife to ask her? Perhaps you are giving off over interested vibes or you have said something to offend her or a family member. You need to ask.

Just asking - why would you be phoning your sister in law anyway? I'm close to my brother in law but tend to go through my sister if I want to ask him anything? I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it but there must be more to it if she's blocked you and its really bothering you? Are you sure you haven't been flirting?

Maybe she feels it's all too messy as her and your wife aren't close.
It could also be that she’s developing feelings for you and wants to put some distance between you.

The comment from a pp about vaginas was rather immature.

If a woman came on here asking what a man thought about a situation and got am equivalent response, he'd be called an idiot and more.

None of us have any idea what happened with the OP and his SIL. All we know is that he thinks we might because we're women. I find that both offensive and bizarre. Maybe you do have an all-seeing vagina but I haven't

The comment from a pp about vaginas was rather immature

If a woman came on here asking what a man thought about a situation and got am equivalent response, he'd be called an idiot and more

I think it's the lack of detail that's the problem. 'You'll know; you're women.' without really giving any other information.

The immaturity of the response only reflected the immaturity of the question (or, at least, the way it was phrased), I think.

My sister in law is very reserved and had been going through some health problems similar to me.I reached out to help and support her as I understood what she was going through.We grew close that way and we started to get on.I have not flirted with her,just showed her I was concerned for her as was my wife but she can't show it and said I was better at helping her sister.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone,I do not expect you to know what happend,I guess I'm just bit confused myself.
I'm going to leave it as no point contacting her as she doesn't want to talk to me.

I'd personally say she thinks you fancy her and is putting distance between you due to this

She thinks you want in her knickers and you've weirded her out.
I would also be weirded out if my BIL started being over friendly with me too.

Someone has mentioned to her that you both are getting too close or she's come to this conclusion herself. Either way she's backing away to create appropriate(?) distance.

I think you’re not being honest with yourself about your feelings for her. For a start you are upset enough about her withdrawal that you’ve posted on here. Also it is odd being closer to her than your wife.

We grew close that way and we started to get on

This was the probably the issue. She may have felt uncomfortable with the closeness and worried where it could lead to.

If she has a partner, they may have felt uncomfortable with it too.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone,I do not expect you to know what happend

Some ppl are easily and unnecessarily offended...don't worry about it.
I understand you were just asking for possible reasons why.

I think it's the lack of detail that's the problem. 'You'll know; you're women.' without really giving any other information.

I'd say there was enough detail and other posters were able to respond based on what was said. It just lowers the tone and says more about the person responding in that way.... and the subsequent response only confirms this.

There's nothing wrong in wanting the perspective or opinion of men or women on a particular situation, without reducing it crudely to sexual body parts.

Imagine a response from a man of "Just because we have a penis, doesn’t mean we have the answer"

OP may not be a man, not that it matters either way. But yes, either she's gone off you or she thinks you or she are over invested so is creating appropriate distance. I'd leave it.