Friends are gossiping that dh has cheated on me but I don't think it's true....!!!!!!!!

[UnderstandablyAnonymous]

Will try to keep this as short as possible...

DH was approached by a mutual friend at the weekend who told him that word was going round (our much larger group of friends) that he'd been cheating on me with a single mum (who I'll call X) on the periphery of our group.

He's really upset that friends could think he'd do this and I'm angry because some of what's being said is definitely untrue, e.g. that I kicked him out for five days during which time he had to stay at a mate's house. (Am not pretending that I haven't considered this over the years but think I'd have remembered if I had).

I'm sure it sounds as if I'm in denial but for various reasons, not least because I know that me kicking him out is totally untrue, I genuinely believe that he's never done more that go on to another bar with X when other people didn't want to carry on drinking.

Apparently X is upset that she's being portrayed as a scarlet woman out to nab someone else's husband though I'm not bothered about her feelings on the matter at the moment.

So where do I start? Should I contact those people who I know have started some of these rumours to find out whether they've said what they are supposed to have done and, if so, why?

Gossip which questions the paternity of one of your dc is outrageous. Did you confront anyone about it? Are you still friends with them?

I did confront this person, it was a man I knew for years, went out with briefly as a teenager. He denied every single word of it, though I had been told by two of my outraged friends, who don't even know each other, that he was busily spreading it around.

I cornered him when I saw him in town, and asked him "Why are you telling people I had an affair with X?"

And he said "I didn't!"

poor sad git. Obviously we are very interesting people.

UA how's things today?

Did dh go round to the guy's house he was supposed to have stayed at last night?

colditz , thats awful, gossiping is awful let alone dragging your dc's into it too.

how's things today ua?

This would drive me mad!

UA< I wouldn't care how odd this other woman was, I would want to hear her side of the story also, as she may be able to help you & dh put an end to the gossip.

Hello! Well one of the key sources has now apologised and admitted that the rumours were based only on "questions being asked" when dh and x went on to find somewhere to get a drink when they weren't invited back to a house party with everyone else.

Still very pissed off that "friends" were happy to revel in speculation for four weeks before speaking with me or dh who could have clarified things immediately, i.e. that I knew where he was, who he was with, and that he wasn't doing anything untoward behind my back.

I've decided not to raise the subject with the key gossips for the moment - although will clearly respond if they ask - because I am still seething about it and could well say something I'd regret (especially as neither have blemish-free track records themselves... ).

Thanks for the postings though, it was great to be able to vent my spleen with people who don't know me in RL .