Reasons for divorce

[Whollovesyababy]

When I’ve previously complained on MN about a specific thing in my relationship the advice has mostly been, just get on with it yourself. However I found out that a friend of a friend has cited the same reason in her divorce.

Don’t want to give specifics because I think the person in question is likely to be on MN.

So I was wondering what things do people put on the divorce papers that are not cheating/getting into debt kind of things.

I think the UK law only allows for maybe 2 or 3 things to be put onto divorce paperwork as reasons for divorce. I think there are plans to change this.

@B1rdflyinghigh

I think the UK law only allows for maybe 2 or 3 things to be put onto divorce paperwork as reasons for divorce. I think there are plans to change this.

I had 6 reasons for my recent divorce

6 reasons?! 🙌
Love it! No doubt on that decision then!

If the divorce isn’t based on infidelity, or 2 years separation - then people put something that is ‘unreasonable behaviour’. I think you need a few, at least 3.
In most cases, it’s mostly a formality so don’t have to be something major.
It can be things like - lack of emotional support; controlling behaviours; etc.
If you need examples - you can Google them, there are plenty online.

I was advised to go for the most long-standing, the most recent and the most serious incidents of unreasonable behaviour. I think anything that was a one-off many years ago wouldn’t be deemed admissible as the implication is that you should have left back then if it was so bad (unfair really as many of have our reasons for staying put even through so shitty times).

I put that he was unwilling to get involved in family activities, made cruel jokes about my appearance and was controlling about money, citing examples of each.

I think this Autumn no fault divorce is coming in? A friend just told me about it the other day. I think both parties have to agree

Sorry - stupid auto correct messed up half of that, but you get the idea!

You can cite all sorts of things as unreasonable behaviour.

I cited my ex's lack of emotional support, his drinking, lack of engagement with family life, his financial irresponsibility and so on. You need examples to go alongside the reasons.

If you're unhappy in the relationship, it really doesn't matter if other people think you should "just get on with it", they don't have to live with it.