Domestic/ emotional violence

[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

I'm considering whether or not it's worth pursuing any legal avenues after going through domestic abuse, mostly mental/ emotional.

I still have to deal with him for the children and it's an ongoing gaslighting nightmare.
However I don't feel scared of him any more.
I'm unsure whether it's even worth trying or is it just too much he said/ she said to prove.
Is this something people have any success with?

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m sending you an empathetic hug.
I’m in the same boat.
Do you think there is anything left to save? For you...not just the children?
Does he recognise there’s a problem??

I left him last year and went to a refuge. We are back in the same area and he has access to the kids, I've kept most of what's happened to myself but because he's paranoid about people finding out he's been starting almost a smear campaign against me and the unfairness of everything is starting to get to me. I feel I need to do something but something positive.
I'm sorry you're having issues as well

Sorry this is very worrying

Why does he have access?
It must be supervised

Report him to police
Get advice from a solicitor

Mine also started a smear campaign with my priest, workplace, friends , boss

Awful

Please push this further
Bet there are lots of reasons why he could end up prosecuted

Why does he have access to the kids? Is this a court order?

Sorry I've been rushed off my feet.
He sees them because they love him and he's not unkind to them. Useless yes but unkind no.

There's no court order, but I e been told numerous times that I wouldn't be able to prevent him seeing them legally anyway and I want them to be happy.
Police were informed when I left, so there is an official sort of history.
I've been printing off the admissions of guilt he's sent through messages when he was trying to get me to come back
He's saying online that I'm trying to alienate him from the children and preventing him seeing them when actually he regularly tries to cancel them. It's people believing him that's starting to get to me I don't know what to do if anything