My guy friend avoiding me.

[WhoStoleTheCookies]

Hi,
I'll keep this short and simple.I have this male friend and have known him for good few years.We get on so well.I have noticed how he has stopped replying to my texts and now realised he has blocked my calls too.I find it so strange.We have not had an argument and it just feels like he is avoiding me.Anyone been through this?He still chats to our mutual friends.

Are you single? If you are attached, it could be because he likes you more than a friend but is backing off because you're not interested.

How good a friend is he? I would take a step back if you're already in a relationship. He could be playing games and testing you, we can't know from the little information we have. If you know you haven't done anything wrong, then just let things be. He's the one that's acting strange.

I'm in a relationship.My partner finds it strange too.

Back well away in that case.

I would leave him be. As the other poster says maybe it's got to do with your current relationship. If he's such a good person blocking someone for no reason is childish. You'll find out eventually

You've been ghosted. The fact he has blocked you should be all you need to know. He doesn't want contact. You might never find out why he blocked you or why he still talks to other people so rather than torment yourself try to end the relationship in your mind and move on.

I've had a couple of male friends just "disappear" when they realise there's no extras on the cards. Better off without them, also getting weirdly jealous of me having other make friends! Too much hard work, just stick pretty much to female friends now.

He has a girlfriend now. She is insecure and hates you on principal.

@justilou1

He has a girlfriend now. She is insecure and hates you on principal.

Actually yes could well be this. My oldest friend is a guy, from when we were 16. However since being married I never see him, be used to live nearby but she engineered them moving miles away. Not just because of me she wanted to separate him from his whole friendship group. Actually thinking about it this has happened to x 2 male friends. And as they're both pretty lazy they've just ended up going along with it.

He's always had girlfriends in the past though and kept in contact,this is what I don't understand.I've known him for years so it just hurts he cut off all ties with me without saying why.

It would be nice to at least know the reason, then you can let him float off into the sunset.

I always go into self preservation with this. I don't really care why people ghost me. I just put it behind me and move on like they no longer exist. I've always been the same in relationships. Once it's over you're dead to me. I just get on with my life and don't waste any emotion or feelings on it.

@WhoStoleTheCookies

He's always had girlfriends in the past though and kept in contact,this is what I don't understand.I've known him for years so it just hurts he cut off all ties with me without saying why.

Most women aren't insecure enough to demand their BF drops all their female friends. Unluckily for him his new GF is.

So there are loads of possible reasons -

He has feelings for you and needs to cut you off,
He mistakenly thinks you have feelings for him,
His girlfriend thinks he has feelings for you and has asked him to cut you off,
He doesn't need you as a new friend or girlfriend is fulfilling your role,
He has heard an untrue story about you,
You have offended him without realising it.

Or anything really.

It's awful to be on the receiving end of this. Have you tried sending a direct "have I done something to upset you? Please let me know as I did not mean to" message?

If so and no response, there is little else you can do. If not, maybe worth a try?

Thankyou everyone.I've just left it because my partner told me not to bother then if someones avoiding me.Thankyou all for replying.x

This happened to me, a long standing (decades) male friend, chatted a lot and met up a lot as friends. A new woman came along, he became besotted, she pulled him away from all his friends and family. He went along with it and cut all contact with me. I was heart broken. She wanted to get married, he got married, she divorced him one year later and once he came to his senses it took him a good while to build all the friendships back up that he cut out after she told him to. He now can't believe how he acted the way he did. So, I get how you feel OP and it maybe something as simple as a new woman on the scene. Just keep your ears and eyes peeled. He will return at some point, whether you accept his friendship again is for you to determine.

I reckon that whoever he's seeing has pulled him on something and he's concerned that if notifications from you keep popping up it might upset her. Then he's made a straight choice between you and her. He should've let you know out of courtesy though.

I had a 'male friend', we were so close. But it was tricky, and never the friendship I wanted.
His partner is massively insecure and to be blunt; controlling.
When it came to it, when I really needed him, and reached out. He wasn't there. It broke my heart.
I knew there and then, that the friendship was over.
I tried a couple of times to explain my feelings, to express my sadness, but it fell on death ears

It's been four months since I saw him. I don't expect to see or hear from him again.

I used to wonder why people would say male & female friendships are a bad idea. I thought it was nonsense. But now, I have to agree.

I'm so sorry he's done this to you. There could be so many reasons as to why. But the fact he's given no explanation or reasoning at all - let that be enough. He really wasn't a friend after all.

Ps. Men really are cowards!