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first date disaster!

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mocca · 05/11/2007 10:45

Advice please girls (and I really should know better, I'm 50 for god's sake!) Having come out the other side of a divorce unscathed and ready for a man in my life,I
met a man for the first time last night, after a couple of weeks of lovely emails and a long and interesting phone conversation.
He was as lovely in person as he was over email/phone and I think the evening went well APART from the fact that I drank too much (had a couple before I even met him to calm my nerves) and was definitely less sober than I would have liked. I don't think I made a prat of myself but he did email me when I got home to ask if I'd managed to get back safely without tripping over! (he asked in a very gentlemanly way whether I minded if he asked if I was ever so slightly tipsy!).

Aaargh - I'm mortified. Should I apologise to him (by email of course) or just not refer to it? We had so much in common and I would like to see him again, have I blown it? And on that note, is it OK to let a guy know you had a nice time after a first meeting and suggest meeting up again? I'm so out of practice, I've forgotten the rules! Hence knocking back too much vino to feel less nervous. I don't have any intention of getting physically involved with anyone for a long while though - it's friendship first and see what happens.

thanks I'm agony this morning!

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ShinyHappyRocketsGoingBANG · 05/11/2007 10:48

Just admit you very nervous and yes, a bit tipsy because of it.. and that you liked him very much and next time you will sober!

teasle · 05/11/2007 10:49

No harm in admitting you were nervous is there? If he's a decent bloke he'll be aware of this- he was probably nervous too.
Well done for getting out on a date!

Baffy · 05/11/2007 10:59

Agree with shiny

And definitely tell him you had a lovely time suggest meeting again sometime.

He sounds great!

My2Weegirls · 05/11/2007 11:09

yes - reply back saying you were a wee bit tispy as you were a bit nervous. that you had a really nice time and that you would like to see him again - suggest something that you think you'd both like to do (somewhere that they only serve coffee ). he sounds interested in you especially taking the time to email to ask if you were ok.

enjoy yourself!

mocca · 05/11/2007 11:32

Well girls, thanks hugely.... I took your advice, fessed up and suggested we go for a look around my local cathedral one lunch-time! (I live across the road from St Albans Abbey). We both love old buildings you see. And he said he'd love to! So now I'm excited as well as being a bit nervous...

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ernest · 05/11/2007 12:04

just wondering, did he just say good bye and let you find your own way home int he dark late at night even though you were clearly a bit pissed? Or am I old fashioned and do men not see you home any more? Been a while since I had a date

But don't worry per say about being a bit worse for wear, tho maybe being a bit more sober next time might calm any fears he might have about you being a lush

mocca · 05/11/2007 12:27

No absolutely not a drop will pass my lips next time I meet him Ernest. And no, you're not old-fashioned - I think most men with any decency would offer to see you home. In fact, he did offer but I only live just off the main street so wasn't far for me to go.

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