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Divorce while pregnant

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f1293 · 27/02/2021 23:16

Hi,

This is going to be a long one so bare with me. I have been married for 3 years and since the beginning my husband just changed.. he became verbally abusive and just angry.

Whenever we had arguments it would escalate to the point of me feeling scared. We have a baby girl and I'm 4 months pregnant at the moment.. at one point there was an incident where the police got involved and he got a police caution. I stayed because well, after all I wanted to have a family with him and I fell in love with the man he once was.

I'm not from the UK and when I moved here I did it for him, I left everything and eventually got a job here. Then I got pregnant and quit the job to be a full time mum.. he is employed and we are in a very good financial situation, but ever since I moved here he has been calling me lazy and he just treats me like what I do isn't important at all, at least not as important as what he does (work and make money)

After being called so many names and being belittled so much I just want to divorce him.. I feel so isolated and lonely and just desperate to be honest. I have just applied for my spouse visa to be renewed so I can't leave the country without it being rejected. I'm scared that if I leave without the divorce being completed I will be left with absolutely nothing and then I won't be able to come back to try and legally fix this mess. I just don't know what to do.. I feel trapped and alone and desperate.

Thanks

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PicsInRed · 27/02/2021 23:23

Whilst you could leave the country as a pregnant woman and establish the foetus where it is born, you also have a daughter together, and she is potentially (depending on your home country?) subject to Hague Convention return provisions should you attempt to remove her.

To resolve your UK immigration matter, you could apply for settlement as a victim of domestic violence - I see the police were involved which will be helpful here. Please see the link below. I would advise you obtain the assistance of an immigration solictor for this sort of application to ensure that it goes through without any issues.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/application-to-settle-in-uk-form-setdv

Flowers Flowers

f1293 · 27/02/2021 23:35

@PicsInRed

Whilst you could leave the country as a pregnant woman and establish the foetus where it is born, you also have a daughter together, and she is potentially (depending on your home country?) subject to Hague Convention return provisions should you attempt to remove her.

To resolve your UK immigration matter, you could apply for settlement as a victim of domestic violence - I see the police were involved which will be helpful here. Please see the link below. I would advise you obtain the assistance of an immigration solictor for this sort of application to ensure that it goes through without any issues.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/application-to-settle-in-uk-form-setdv

Flowers Flowers

Thank you He has agreed that if I leave I would take her with me. So I have his permission
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