Did anyone else grow up with a disruptive older sibling, same sex? I did, and it has been so stressful at various stages of my life. Any achievements I may have made on my own merit were overshadowed by their manipulative argument causing motives, to maximise them getting the attention etc etc
At the moment they are out of work having gone from job to job to job in a professional role. They are currently at my elderly parents home for the last year.
They are single and nearly 50 years old.
I've distanced myself over the years as I just want a simple life raising my family.
I don't know why I'm posting this, because I can clearly see their behaviour for what it is most of the time so identifying it isn't the problem.
I guess I sometimes mourn for the 'proper' easy fun sibling relationship I could or should have had in adult life or indeed in childhood, where the older sibling is 'sorted' in life, is kind, is caring, actually wants life to go well. It just seems they want difficulty wherever they go and uses me or my parents to fix it.
It's exhausting.