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What would you do

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Simmyyx · 27/02/2021 10:12

So i need to vent.
Me and dh have been having a rocky relationship for a while. I spoken to him numerous number of time about the same issue that im finding hard to deal with.

Husabnd works very long hours i. E leaves 8am doesn't return till 11pm or something later only once in a blue moon home at 9pm. I do very much understand hes hard working and appropriate that but we are not struggling for him to be working so long hours. Im also looking to return to work at the minute im on maternity leave cause i had my little one 4 months ago. Hes never ever here for me or our 3 kids.

Ive been really struggling with my health because ive got really bad sciatica. Ive told him can he get back home on time latest try be back for dinner.

Hes turned around and told me im the reason if he doesnt do well in his job if he doesn't sucessed, Also keeps telling me he rather have a wife who does nothing at home then a nagging one and that maybe he should forget him dream because i dont let him get on with it. Im the reason for his failure and told me to get a full time job to as i dont appricate anything.

I do everything in this house from housework, cooking, bills, take care of my babies so i dont understand what his issue also is with me.

I feel like escaping from him with my kids. Everytime this issue arises he avoids it i told him its causing me mental stress as im so much on my own, im doing everything by myself like a single parent would. I dont feel like im married and it does get very lonely not being able to share anything with him. We dont even speak all day via text when i do text something cute i.e i miss you he ignores it. I feel bit upset cause he knows i been down but decides to make me feel more shit then i feel

Am i right to feel so so fed up

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BigDecisionsLittleTime · 28/02/2021 09:19

PP is right, sounds like he's avoiding family life.

My dad did the same, at the time I expect my mum felt like you. Now she openly says he was just avoiding kids teatime & bedtime. They argued a lot too, he had no respect for her at all. I preferred it when he wasn't at home. He was always so 'tired' from working so hard he would spend more than half the weekend in bed. When he was up he rarely interacted with us children, but he did demand her full attention. God knows why he wanted a family, I suspect he didn't really.

He kept her sweet with dreams of early retirement and quality time. But nope, he still avoids family life. She's still with him but carved out a life of her own in recent years, he hardly sees his children or grandchildren. She missed out on a lot, I'm sure she has regrets.

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