Hi everyone long time lurker, I always read the boards but today something happened and I just want to work out weather this should be taken as a threat.
Backstory as brief as possible - been with p for 4 years we both have dd’s from a previous and we have a son together (he turns 1 next week!) He is abusive I know this, and he has a coccaine addiction. I planned to leave last week but chickened out so it has been my plan this week. I will do it on Friday when he gets paid so he can’t tell me he has no money.
On Tuesday night he ‘got on it’ I think he was up until 5am but not sure, anyway, he didn’t go to work yesterday, which is unlike him because although he usually does it through the wee he does go work. My cousin is single so we have formed a support bubble, she came at the weekend but left her expensive watch behind so she popped in yesterday to pick it up and casually asked p why he wasn’t at work. Fast forward to last night I woke through the night went to the loo and took his phone off charge and put mine on, I saw a message from his dealer saying ‘I hear you weren’t at work don’t worry I got your back’ he then wakes me and the dc at 6am accusing my cousin of telling his work mates that he didn’t go to work, she doesn’t know his work mates or is dealer so she can’t of done but anyway, he then shouted that I’m a lazy cunt and i deserve a slap!
I know I’m going to kick him out so it doesn’t really matter, but I guess I always thought he would never hit me as much as he shouts, gets aggressive, lies etc. Was I wrong about that too?
My dd heard it and is now scared, I feel awful that I’ve put her in this position and wish I had just stood up to him months ago!
Thanks for reading there’s much more to this relationship I could be here for days!