Sad, lonely

[Sadsongblue]

I’m about to turn 34 in a few months and I can’t help but feel like my life is so pointless. I don’t have much going at work and my relationships have been a mess. I feel so sad and am wondering if this is it and am just wishing away my life.

What can you change about your life if you’re not happy about it? If you don’t like your job then start looking for a new one but in the meantime find other things to interest you like an online course, there’s lots of them about. Start being happy in yourself and your relationships will improve with others but courses might help you make new friends.

Sadsongblue, sorry you feel so low, l think a lot of us do in the current situation, it's hard to be positive in a Pandemic. You life is certainly not pointless though, you are still young and there are lots of possibilities and opportunities ahead for you. Try to do something nice for yourself today, and treat yourself with kindness. Things will get better!

Thank you. I’ve just had this melancholiness for the past 5 or so years after my long term relationship ended and I’ve just never been able to recapture my focus or motivation or joy. I’ve had counselling and it’s helped a bit but I just feel in a state of apathy. I’m drifting as well in my work which is freelance and I just feel so tired of it all.

I do understand, the end of a relationship can be traumatic, similar to a bereavement for some. And just now it's hard to get the distraction you need as socialising and meeting new people is impossible. Do you have a good support network in place?