Fussy eater DP

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I'm new here but I need advice As DD is getting older so I don't want her picking up on it and copying

My dp is a very fussy eater, he doesn't eat veg, he mainly eats pizza,lasagna,spaghetti bolognese, burgers and takeaways. For breakfast all he eats is toast occasionally and coco pops. He also doesn't eat fruit.

I cook for me and dd but he has something Different as he doesn't like it (even though he hasn't tried any) he also won't try my spaghetti bolognese although he eats frozen.

He does have Aspergers though so I'm not sure what to do? I don't want dd copying as she gets older though, right now she's almost 14 months so still young but as she gets older she will notice

I think if he’s happy to cook his own meals and takes responsibility for making sure he gives your dd a balanced then I don’t think there’s much you can or should do. It’s not uncommon for people with Aspergers to have a limited diet.

Yeah the Aspergers definitely puts a different spin on it, although I’m sure a lot of fussy eaters have some sort of sensory issues too.

As long as your DD is being offered a good range of food and nobody is making a big deal of it, I’m sure she’ll be fine. If you start getting into food battles and making her eat things she doesn’t like, it’s more likely to start a conversation about “why doesn’t daddy have to eat broccoli?” Etc

All my DC grew up eating anything and everything, they’re mainly more adventurous than I am, as they ate things their dad liked that I didn’t. Just set her a good example and don’t make a fuss about food generally... no forcing her to eat A in order to get B etc. Just say try a little bit of everything on your plate, and don’t have bad food and good food (especially if it’s that Daddy’s food is bad food and yours is good healthy food, as that will set up all sorts of unhealthy messages to her about what women should eat etc)

Thank you for your replies. Right now dd eats anything we give her

Is your daughter eating a wide variety of healthy food? I know you’ve said she eats everything you give her. My son eats everything he’s given and has the healthiest diet of anyone I know. Hopefully good healthy habits stick if they’re started early.

(I have a poor diet and ASD and I do worry about my son copying things I do)

Also, she will go through a phase of rejecting most things (and those changing on a whim). That's normal and developmentally appropriate. Don't start stressing that she's becoming her dad.
Be neutral, continue offering her a wide variety (get excited about your exciting food, to lure into begging for a bite of yours) and don't get into a battle or stress about it.
Her dad is functioning enough on his diet to parent and for you to be in a relationship with, even if she does end up like him (which she probably won't) its not the end of the world.

Great advice above.

In families there are often likes and dislikes
when it comes to food.

3 of my children have always been great adventurous eaters, 1 would eat junk food and carbs only if he could get away with it.

He eats good food because it's put in front of him...but if I dropped dead tomorrow he would have McDonald's on speed dial🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it's best to not reference his food at all and make it clear he is NEVER to speak negatively about food or the meals you cook.
Say something positive or say nothing was the rule here.