Sexual life

[Amanda87]

Just a random question...
How often do you guys have sex with your husbands/partners?
My sex life is going downhill since we bought a house because the husband says he's always worried about all the stuff we gotta do in the house. It's just really bothering me. I've talked to him but he does't see anything wrong and won't acknowledge my feelings. Obviously I can't force him to do anything he does not feel like. I feel like I'm always the one starting things up now...

Between 2 and 4 times a week on average. I don't want sex if I'm stressed. DHs sex drive never dwindles.

You need to write a list of stuff that needs doing to the house.
Work out a reasonable time scale and start working through the list.
Once he sees stuff being done he'll calm down and your sex life will come back.

Recently it's stabilised to twice a week. For years it was once every two weeks or less. Since lockdown it's varied and at one point it was every other day.

Me and my OH haven't had sex in 6 weeks. The unhealthy part is not one of us has mentioned it but both of us know it's been a while. I'm just tired we have 2 children under 3 who do not sleep!! It's always me who has to make the first move and I just haven't but neither has he.

We don't have kids and we're in our 30's.

Probably twice a week on average. Some weeks more, some less. He would have it every day if I was into it. So frequency is driven by me a lot.

We have two preschool aged kids, one who never sleeps, if that makes a difference

My sex life is going downhill since we bought a house because the husband says he's always worried about all the stuff we gotta do in the house.

Turn the heating up to maximum. Cover the furniture in decorating sheets. Slip on a very loose pair of dungarees and nothing else and then start reaching for the paint pot. Things will soon change.

on average I'd say 3 times a week, we have been married for 23 years and it has varied, we have had periods where it would be every night and other periods where it would only be a couple of times a month.

2 to 3 times a week. No kids.

Once every couple of weeks, I often gets uti's afterwards which puts me off

Once a month or less we love each other but neither of us have a high sex drive. I wish I wanted it more though.

We have matching high sex drives but live apart.
We bubble - he lives alone and he stays around 3 nights a week. 2 times a night and early morning sex which is a great day starter. It might be less if we lived together full time but probably not since we enjoy so much. Just lucky we have a very similar sex drive.

As long as both are happy with how often etc etc etc then it doesn't really matter

Me and my husband have sex one time a week when the kids are visiting their grans

4 or 5 times a week depending on what else is happening. We’re both happy with morning or evening, or even a bit of afternoon delight or a 3am romp when the opportunity arises, so it racks up pretty quickly.

Twice a week before pregnancy but probably once a week since being pregnant and my toddler deciding he now hates sleep. 🙄 during lockdown 1.0 and 2.0 every chance we got 🤣😂 hence the pregnancy

I stopped trying to initiate over a year ago as I found the rejection too humiliating. Communication is major issue - he won't talk about why, and what we can do to sort it. I think it goes without saying that sex isn't our only problem.

@Robin233

You need to write a list of stuff that needs doing to the house. Work out a reasonable time scale and start working through the list. Once he sees stuff being done he'll calm down and your sex life will come back.

This, he probably feels it’s on his shoulders to deal with

It’s been years
Now divorcing I can’t take it any more I need affection ! Not to be looked at like I’m shit !

@Loocheeyar

It’s been years Now divorcing I can’t take it any more I need affection ! Not to be looked at like I’m shit !

I was in a similar position with my exH and we split up a few years ago. New partner is on my wavelength and so I feel attractive and loved now... I know everyone doesn't need or want sex but I see it as important in a relationship with a partner/lover otherwise I might as well live with a friend...

Good luck with your divorce and go find yourself and then when ready someone else if you want to...

2/3 times weekly? Sometimes a bit more. We are in our 40s, primary school aged kids. It’s been less at times of high stress/exhaustion with babies. What was it like before OP? Is your DH prone to stress generally?

Between 2 and 8 times a month.

We are late thirties/ early forties with young kids

We live apart, We see one another 3/4 times during the week. Between 4 and 12 times a week depending on if I stay and how tired we are. We both have matched drives though. In my previous relationship it was sometimes no more than 3/4 times a year. I’m much happier now....not just for this reason...but it helps.